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[home2013]

WOW. I would not be able to leave my daughter there. I know its a family issue but even putting your little girl in that situation sounds risky to her well being.

[msmoneybags48]

I will add this in the hopes that you will change your mind.  I was molested at the age of 9 by my cousin's husband, who threatened to kill his wife (my cousin)  if I ever divulged to her the events.  My nephew was molested from the ages of 5 through 7 by a close friend of my sister.  In the first case, it eventually came to an end because I was at the house with relatives who took care of their own.  In the second case, he was sentenced to 16 years in prison.  It turned out my nephew was not his only victim.  He was killed in prison.

[ghunter]

you can never be to cautious, keep your eyeys open and watch and listen just to make sure.

[bessie1111]

I wouldn't take a chance that their wrong.  They are your special children and you must protect them above all.

[almorin]

I think that it is important to follow your gut fellings and that one can never be too cautious as far as watching and protecting your kids.  My wife and I have for the most part always watched our own kids and we have had few if any baby sitters.  Of course over the 19 years of marrage we have almost never had "alone dates" which I think is important for a "healthy marrage".  But, we love each other and our kids and we take our parenting seriously even though we are far from the "ideal parents".  I say that we are propably not the "ideal parents" because I think at times we tend to "spoil our kids" as we let them have their own way and give them things that they really don't need when we can afford to.

      

[cathy37]

When my daughter was born, my aunt kept telling me not to ever leave my daughter with my stepfather.  She finally told me I needed to talk to my sister.  It finally came out that my stepfather was doing things he should not have been doing with my sister when she was younger. 

[nhendrickson]

The remarks he made are inappropriate about very young children.  A 22 month old isn't old enough to speak up and tell you if he's doing anything wrong.  If you have a gut feeling (and people you trust) that there is something to your sister-in-law's warnings, I'd just make sure that my children weren't ever alone with him. 

Your fiance may have luckily not experienced anything himself or even be in denial about it so he may not be the best source to confirm or deny it.  I would sure hope that your sis in law wouldn't make something like up just to get some babysitting gig for her child.  Go with how you feel.  It can't be undone if it happens. 

[heypeg]

You can never be to careful. It's your job to protect your kids

[jmccaskill]

I would not ever leave a child with anyone that was even of the slightsest suspicion. There is no way that potential can be ignored, and I assure you a child will never 'get over it' if they are subjected to abuse.

There is just no way I would subject a child to that possibility. You say that there might the a 'money notivation' there, but that is unlikely to be the reason for one making comments about anothers character and actions.

[briannajeanxo]

i agree with hvnlydevil. and i would not trust someone who even made those comments.

[Ronnis25]

Prayers coming your way.  It is hard when it is family.  God will lead you!

[bigedshult]

I don't elicit stems but if he ever did some with somebody kids
point he shouldn't be around your kids! But you never know it could be all somebody made up to get back at him for something he did. That they didn't like. Be careful and our him to once the kids. That income over and see how he acts around when he thinks you out watch. Maybe it will ease it cameras set up so you can watch and when you're not all on the Internet and see if he does anything inappropriate! That's one thing you can do excellent point