How many women out there think it is difficult to be a step mom?

[cowgirlx]

I have two step sons one lives with me and one lives with his pos mom.  I want to know who else finds it had to be a step parent.   This could go for step dads too.

[wmcooke]

I absolutely find it difficult to be a step mom. Even more difficult than be a biological mother!

[Trixiebabie]

i know its hard to be a mom, i can imagine that it would be even more challenging to be a step-mother. keep up the good work!   

[geminikq]

It can be extremely hard being a step mom. I have an 11 yr old step son and almost 15 yr old step daughter. In this instance the mother has told the kids many untruths for many years and with my step daughter getting older, she saw what was happening. We are very close now, but my step son is a different matter. He has been led to believe horrible things ( jerry springer crap! ) and is very disrespectable. However, I do believe one day this too will blow up in the mothers face and she will lose her relationship with him as well. Nobody wins.. It's very hard to see the kids just get hurt over and over again.

[cowgirlx]

Does it get easier?  In the past 4 years it has just gotten harder and harder.  I has almost split us up more times than I can count.  The oldest is rude and lazy, and tries to split us up all the time.  He gets mad because chores are too hard for him.(4'2" 110+#)  all he wants to do is sit on the couch and watch tv.  The youngest is 7 and lives with us.  He gets worse everytime he goes to his moms or his brother comes over for the weekend.  The 10 yr old even ruined the wedding AND reception. I would love to hear from someone who has had it all work out in the end.

[cowgirlx]

Anyone else find it hard to be a step mom?

[PMZ908]

 :BangHead

[mlbevins]

I have a step-mom and and a step-dad, and for waterever reason I think more of my step-dad than I do my step-mom.  I think that it is because my dad and my step-mom were not around when I grew up and my step-dad was.  We goof around all of the time.  In my experience, it has been hard to get close to my step-mom and she has been with my dad for around 15 years now. 

[JettaLover73]

i have a step daughter...and she plays the"your not my mom" card all the time

[Phatkitty]

Well!  What a topic! Reading some of the responses to this question my heart goes out to you all.  It is difficult, to say the least, being a step-parent, but I will say this:  I am a step-parent and my step-daughter and I have a decent relationship. I've had no problems (she's also 19yrs old which may be why), but my sister is a step-mom with 2 step-children that are disrespectful and lazy.  They have all but ruined the marriage, cursed my sister out, fought their step siblings (my sister has 2 children of her own) and disgraced my sister at church.  She still loves them dearly although they've moved from the home (had to to keep peace) and she hasn't given up.  I on the other hand say "cut ur losses".  After a certain age, the parents have to say "look, I love you but......"

[cowgirlx]

Well!  What a topic! Reading some of the responses to this question my heart goes out to you all.  It is difficult, to say the least, being a step-parent, but I will say this:  I am a step-parent and my step-daughter and I have a decent relationship. I've had no problems (she's also 19yrs old which may be why), but my sister is a step-mom with 2 step-children that are disrespectful and lazy.  They have all but ruined the marriage, cursed my sister out, fought their step siblings (my sister has 2 children of her own) and disgraced my sister at church.  She still loves them dearly although they've moved from the home (had to to keep peace) and she hasn't given up.  I on the other hand say "cut ur losses".  After a certain age, the parents have to say "look, I love you but......"

I wish it was that easy.  My husband would rather get divorced than to allow the youngest live with his mom.  You sisters step kids really sound like my oldest step child.  The oldest almost stopped the wedding, and then started some major s### at the reception.  It is an absolute nightmare... In a sad way it is comforting to know that others are going throug the same thing. ( I wish they weren't though)