Should I let my parents be a factor to not going to a University of my choice?

[camellia0]

They should have a say in your school (esp. if they're paying) but YOU have to like it...you will be attending, not them.

[5Yari32]

no

[anotherlaujgirl]

I am a college graduate, as well as have my Master's Degree.  If you are going to college, you are not a child.  You are making decisions for your life.  Literally!  I would definitely listen to your parents concerns and consider if you can find solutions.  At the end of the day, it is what feels right to you.  As long as you are making a well thought out, responsible decision, you will be okay.  Formulate your plan of action then present it to them.  Hopefully, they will respect the "adult" way you have approached the situation and will be supportive of your decision.

Thank You. It's just so difficult.

[Tresbn00]

Unless they are footing the whole bill they shouldn't have a say in where you are going. If it is about money ask them if you can have the money, once a year, that they would spend on the school of their choice.  That way you can spend the money on the school of your choice and make up the difference out of your own pocket. If you are happier going to another school the chances are that you will try harder at that school (because you respect it more).  You will also try harder if you are contributing your own hard-earned money.  I would sit down, with your parents, and sort through the reasons why they want you to go to a certain school and explain your reasons for wanting to go to a different school.

[smithjcsdfw]

It does not cost you to listen to your parents advice.  And you can always ask them for more information on why they believe in what they are telling you.  Ultimately though it is your choice on what you do and of course haveing to live with the consquences of those decisions.  But unless you have already decided on a major course of study and vocation the first couple of years in an accredited college or university are pretty much the same.  Just make sure that your credits are transferable.  Than when you decide what you are going to major in for your undergraduate degree you can decide which university is better for you to pursue that degree.  Best of luck.

[schoolvan]

No I think you should make the disicion of witch one you go to it is your life not theirs. that is just my opinion.   

[madeara]

Your parents have wisdom.  Listen to your parents and pray for the Lord's direction.

[washibi]

I think you should pick the univ. you want because you will be the one going and it is the path to a better future college is about finding yourself so choose the path that suits you i think they will understand

[jowbow]

When I went to school my parents didnt foot the bill I did with a small school loan.  I worked part time and went to school at the same time.  So my loan was paid off before I finished.  I didn't get get the job I had taken schooling for so I when back to school again several years later for a different job.  I worked in that field for 17 years but went to school every year just to stay that field.  Nowe I can't get a job in that field because I am over quailified for that job.  I still take classes every year to keep my license in that field even though I can't get a job.  My grandfather always told me that an education is power and you should never stop learning no matter what you do in your life. 

[mperez7372]

I am a college graduate, as well as have my Master's Degree.  If you are going to college, you are not a child.  You are making decisions for your life.  Literally!  I would definitely listen to your parents concerns and consider if you can find solutions.  At the end of the day, it is what feels right to you.  As long as you are making a well thought out, responsible decision, you will be okay.  Formulate your plan of action then present it to them.  Hopefully, they will respect the "adult" way you have approached the situation and will be supportive of your decision.

Thank You. It's just so difficult.

It is difficult!  But guess what the good news is... there is no choice that will be a bad one.  Just going to college is a great choice, the one you choose is just icing!  AND, you can always transfer is you do not like where you choose first.  Lots of people transfer colleges.  It's not like high school where it is difficult and uncomfortable to change after you begin.  After you make your choice, enjoy your experience.  If things don't feel right after a semester or two, talk to your career counselor or department head about transferring.  You will be great!   Congratulations on your upcoming college adventure!!!! 

[anotherlaujgirl]

Thank you all!

[tzs]

I'm not sure.

So can I get some inputs from you all? I'm still a child so I don't know
what things are going through my parents mind. Right now it really just sounds like
transportation and money issues, but really,

Are there more to that?

Are they paying for it?!?!?

[gaylasue]

Who is paying - you or your parents?  As long as they hold the purse strings, you should listen to them.  If you are totally independent, make your own choice.

[mark81265]

If money is the issue try talking to your parents and see if you can get a job to help chip in so that you can help towards the huge bill but also go to the school of your choice.

[sherryinutah]

If your parents are financing your education they call the shots.  If they're not....

you might want to consider their opinion; however, the choice is yours. 

Go within; sleep on it for a few nights, and follow your heart.  Learning to listen to your higher

self so you can do whatever is best for YOU, is a skill that isn't necessarily taught in school.