Children or No Children

[BRH1969]

I am almost 44 years old, have been with the same man since we were 14. We both decided when we were about 18 that we didn't want to have children. I have never had the feeling that my biological clock was ticking and I HAD to have children. We have 7 nephews and they fill our "being around children time" just fine. Plus as already posted, it's nice to be able to send them back to their parents when play time is over 

[homebusiness4u]

I love my son and expecting a daughter now. I can not imagine how would I live without my babies. Love being "the best mommy ever", that's what my son says. I wouldn't wanna miss on any of my and my kids experiences together. You can not buy this feeling! It's so natural for me!

[tbanks3]

Hello' I have a little girl and she is the love of my life so do not let know one till you having kids are not good to have they are so sweet we can do some much and have so much fun all the time me and my baby girl so yes I do.

[crazib]

I have one son and would'nt change it for the world but would'nt do it agian

[madeara]

Hi,
I don't have any children.  I am an Aunt.  I have a three year old niece and a ten month old nephew.  I love them both so much!

[queenofnines]

Also note that a lot of people who say kids are the "best thing ever" have to say that because it's too late to change their mind now!! "Misery loves company" as they say, so many of these people will shun non-parents because they're secretly regretful of the choice they made that sacrificed their time, money and freedom.

[pgk1965]

i9 had 1 daughter and that was enough for me at the time but now i wish i would have had at least 1 more but its too late now

[micky606]

We really wanted to have children but after five years of trying we decided to be foster parents. Ten years later we had adopted six kids and we couldn't have been happier. Kids are a blessing and I wish more people would relize when they don't want kids or need them... I have a lot of respect for people who make the decision that is best for themselves and in turn is better for children..

[BeccaGoga]

I do not plan on having kids until it is the right time for me. I have got other things that I want to do in life before I become a parent. In all honesty, I do not think I am responsible enough right now to have them.

[swkstudent]

Honestly I don't think I'm equipped to be a mother...but who knows the future will hold. I definitely don't want to have kids later in life I'm already in my late 20's. Seems like some people just want to have kids just to say they have kids, they don't realize the huge responsibility. I'll just get some pets.

[tammypete]

I have 3 kids and feel very blessed to have them!   My husband and I have talked that if we would have married at a younger age, (I was 26 and he was 28) we would have had more.

[jannie7]

WHEN I WAS YOUNG I BABY SIT QUITE A LOT FOR FRIENDS AND relatives kids, so I didn't mind
One child of my own but it didn't occur,  God didn't put it in the plan for me.   

[yaayme]

I would like to get married and have children one day, but I don't see that happening anytime soon unfortunately.

[Boise40]

I don't have any children because I know I couldn't afford to take care of them at the moment. I'm also single too and thats another reason as well lol

[lrharting]

I feel like I'm 'missing out' because it's something I never really wanted in the first place.  If it had been, I would have re-arranged my life to make it happen.  I wish people knew that about themselves before just deciding to reproduce just because society says you have to.  It's like people go to school, get good jobs, get married (well not really anymore) get a house, and whether they want to or not follow the next logical step and have kids.  There is too much pressure on women to have kids, I am not just a reproduction machine to further the human race.  I think that having a child is the most selfless thing you can do and I have a lot of respect for that, but it should be something you want to do not something you feel like you HAVE to do just because everyone else does or because your parents want grandkids.  That's not your obligation since you did not ask to be born you owe no favors.

Besides, I think I know what I'm 'missing out' on.  I had a friend who was going through a divorce and asked me if she could live with me until she got things sorted out.  This was no problem for me but I did ask her what she intended to do with her kids and she said they would be living with their dad.  Great.   So a few months goes by and HE decided that she should take them every other weekend (this was not court ordered they 'mutually' agreed)  which means that they will be at my house from Friday night until Sunday evening.  This is something I hoped we would avoid but I wasn't suprised.  Also I wanted to help my friend out so I let them stay.  Eventually it turned into Mondays, Wednesdays and every other weekend.  Ugh!!!  This was not what I signed up for.  For the most part they were good kids but I felt myself being exhausted by their constand demands.  Mom watch this!!! Mom help me with this!!! Mom where is my...!!! Mom I need to go to the bathroom!!! This only from the one that could talk!  Not to mention she had a 1 year old who constantly cried when she wasn't being fed something and then when you gave her something she crumbled it into my carpet or wiped it on my sofa.  Even the noise was too much!!  I don't think I could take on the 24hr job of being a mom and the constand whining, crying and neediness.