being alone for the holidays

[jcribb16]

Thanks everyone !! its so nice for your support my sister has cerabal palsy she is 30 but mentally 8 years old .so sometimes its toughso i have come up with a plan since I am disabled albeit phically i cant driv any where but i think i have it figured out last night we went to her favorite restuarant today we are watching the parade and the charlie brown speicial .I have never made a thanksgiving meal so the caregiver is going to help us make it together then we are going to play alotttttttt of board games then later tongight we are going to have a pajama party party in her room and eat snack and watch movies late into the night while drinking sparkling cider .HOW DO YOU THINK I DID

I think all of that is just fantastic!      Wonderful ideas and sounds like some super fun - I would love to join in!  That's really sweet that the caregiver is willing to help make the meal.  Let us know how it went!  {{{Hugs}}}     

You get 5 stars out of 5!!     

[wildequusheart]

You did amazing!!!! 

I have a suggestion for Christmas, though. Maybe you can check in your area for support groups or services for people with cerebral palsy or other developmental disabilities and see if they run any holiday programs. If not, maybe you can get the suggestion out for something like group movie night. That way both of you will get to enjoy the company of other people who understand the challenges you face and make new friends.

Hope your Christmas is as bright and twinkly as your Thanksgiving!

[mperez7372]

You did amazing!!!! 

I have a suggestion for Christmas, though. Maybe you can check in your area for support groups or services for people with cerebral palsy or other developmental disabilities and see if they run any holiday programs. If not, maybe you can get the suggestion out for something like group movie night. That way both of you will get to enjoy the company of other people who understand the challenges you face and make new friends.

Hope your Christmas is as bright and twinkly as your Thanksgiving!

I was going to suggest the exact same thing!!!  I worked with adults with disabilities for 16 years, so I know a bit about the challenges families face, as well as the resources!  Look for a Families Helping Families type organization.  There are lots of other people in exactly your situation who would love to share a holiday with you, and she could have a friend, too!  There are generally plenty of socials, dances, even holiday formal *bleep* that are free and they even have gowns to choose from for free.  Often, they even have someone to do hair or makeup for the guests!  Someone will give y'all a ride!  I promise!  I used to send my accessible van to help others in the community ALL the time!!!  Message me if you need me to help you find resources in your area.  If she has a worker, then talk to the director of the company she works for and they can put you in touch with some additional resources (I was the director of such a company!).  If the director can't help you, ask for contact information to talk to her State worker.  They should definitely be able to help!  You did a fantastic job for today!  Really!  BUT the most important thing is that you have to make sure to not wear yourself down where you feel alone and without joy.  There are others out there who understand what you are going through and they are a wonderful support system!  I hope that is helpful and doesn't come off as know-it-allish, because it is not intended to be.  I just know how difficult it can be if you don't feel like you know what to do next.  Happy Thanksgiving!!!! 

[lannl]

I am alone for the holidays too. I have a few moments when I feel depressed but then I think of the future. Hopefully my daughter and grandson will move out here near spring time. I have a huge move coming up at the end of December. Too much work. I hope you will do things with your sister to make the season special.

[Sendmicheck]

It is a wonderful thing your caregiver offer to help you and your sister prepare a meal for the holiday.  Enjoy it and have fun.

[jkhanson]

Thanks everyone !! its so nice for your support my sister has cerabal palsy she is 30 but mentally 8 years old .so sometimes its toughso i have come up with a plan since I am disabled albeit phically i cant driv any where but i think i have it figured out last night we went to her favorite restuarant today we are watching the parade and the charlie brown speicial .I have never made a thanksgiving meal so the caregiver is going to help us make it together then we are going to play alotttttttt of board games then later tongight we are going to have a pajama party party in her room and eat snack and watch movies late into the night while drinking sparkling cider .HOW DO YOU THINK I DID

I think you did a very good job of doing something fun with your sister.  The pajama party and sparkling cider sounds awesome.

I wish I had seen your post before Thanksgiving.  I work in a group home with men with mental and physical challenges.  For Thanksgiving, we made "Turkey Favors" which are little crafty turkeys you set by each person's dinner plate.  I found a picture on the net of similar "turkeys" to give you an idea.



You take a Ritz cracker and frost it with some chocolate frosting. (The frosting is the"glue" to hold on your other pieces of your "turkey")   Add a chocolate covered cherry to the lower part of the Ritz cracker for the "body".  Place candy corn in a fan arc above the chocolate covered cherry for the "tail feathers".

Add a chocolate chip for the "head/beak" to the chocolate covered cherry.  Be sure to have the chocolate chip curl facing down. 

Add a red hot (cinnamon candy dot) for the turkey's "waddle" -- the flapping thing that hangs off turkey's heads -- under the chocolate chip "head".

You can make the "turkeys" stand up by adding 2 chocolate chip "feet" to the under side of your turykey body.

[cwillard1]

Very cute turkeys.  I am going to save that for next year with the kids.  Will give us something to do .

[jcribb16]

You did amazing!!!! 

I have a suggestion for Christmas, though. Maybe you can check in your area for support groups or services for people with cerebral palsy or other developmental disabilities and see if they run any holiday programs. If not, maybe you can get the suggestion out for something like group movie night. That way both of you will get to enjoy the company of other people who understand the challenges you face and make new friends.

Hope your Christmas is as bright and twinkly as your Thanksgiving!

That's a wonderful idea! 

[jcribb16]

Thanks everyone !! its so nice for your support my sister has cerabal palsy she is 30 but mentally 8 years old .so sometimes its toughso i have come up with a plan since I am disabled albeit phically i cant driv any where but i think i have it figured out last night we went to her favorite restuarant today we are watching the parade and the charlie brown speicial .I have never made a thanksgiving meal so the caregiver is going to help us make it together then we are going to play alotttttttt of board games then later tongight we are going to have a pajama party party in her room and eat snack and watch movies late into the night while drinking sparkling cider .HOW DO YOU THINK I DID

I think you did a very good job of doing something fun with your sister.  The pajama party and sparkling cider sounds awesome.

I wish I had seen your post before Thanksgiving.  I work in a group home with men with mental and physical challenges.  For Thanksgiving, we made "Turkey Favors" which are little crafty turkeys you set by each person's dinner plate.  I found a picture on the net of similar "turkeys" to give you an idea.



You take a Ritz cracker and frost it with some chocolate frosting. (The frosting is the"glue" to hold on your other pieces of your "turkey")   Add a chocolate covered cherry to the lower part of the Ritz cracker for the "body".  Place candy corn in a fan arc above the chocolate covered cherry for the "tail feathers".

Add a chocolate chip for the "head/beak" to the chocolate covered cherry.  Be sure to have the chocolate chip curl facing down. 

Add a red hot (cinnamon candy dot) for the turkey's "waddle" -- the flapping thing that hangs off turkey's heads -- under the chocolate chip "head".

You can make the "turkeys" stand up by adding 2 chocolate chip "feet" to the under side of your turykey body.

Those are adorable!

[Tresbn00]

My wife had surgery and has been knocked out for the last three days so I have been in charge of the Thanksgiving feast(which went swimmingly) and entertaining the kids.  We went on a four mile run on Thanksgiving day and the kids helped me cook dinner then settled in to watch some holiday movies.  Yesterday my son went to play with some friends and I focused on my daughter.  We took a very long walk, with the dogs, and talked forever...making up for the lack of conversaation that we have during our normally crazy work-filled week.  Then we went and saw a movie together capped off by her having a soccer game late last night.

[sdecaro558]

Sorry to hear that - the holidays end up being a depressing time for quite a few people because it brings up loneliness and experiences of loss.  Know that you aren't alone, and that people do care.  If you need to talk please let me know and we can chat.