One's own life, home, and property

[fc2]

Recently received a threatening message from my wife's younger brother. YB(Younger Brother) printed in ink on the edge of a community newspaper, "IF THIS IS SOME KIND OF A HINT DON!?, YOU'D BETTER WATCH OUT!" and I discovered it on the dining room table. I walked upstairs to the guest room and inquired of the YB, "Did you write this?" His reply was, "Yes. Do you want me to move out?" I replied, "No. But this message you wrote is a threat to my life! And I'm driving to the police department and show this message to them". YB replied, "Oh I was drunk. I'm sorry". Too late for YB. How unintelligent and disacknowledging is this of my wife's family member I ask you? The police officer I spoke with explained to me that my wife and I need to go to the court house and file for an EVICTION NOTICE for her younger brother if he persists with any furthur threatening letters/messages. I'm hanging onto this message for evidence if this goes to court   . Anyone ever experience bullying from another in-law or blood related family member as well? I can take just so much abuse from my wife's family, but this is going too far of my wife's allowance simply because she feels sorry for her family member and I explained this to her  . She thinks she's helping her family, but in this instance she's actually harming him in the long run because now the YB is taking advantage of her kindness  .   I don't tolerate violence in my presence, in my home, nor on my property. How about you?

[fc2]

Alongside this threat YB has been rearranging our home to suit his needs and has tossed one my items outside of the house, brings the landline phone up to his room and keeps it there all night and day, and comes downstairs while we're sleeping and disturbs us just before bedtime with mediocrity and has been a nuisance ever since he's been living with us.

[vickysue]

I think he should have too move out, in time he will come between you and your wife, It happened too us and we had to finaly ask a family member to move out as it was not helping our marriage, I know your wife wants to help him, but he is doing to help hemself and will continue to cause problems.

[fc2]

I think he should have too move out, in time he will come between you and your wife, It happened too us and we had to finaly ask a family member to move out as it was not helping our marriage, I know your wife wants to help him, but he is doing to help hemself and will continue to cause problems.

The police are ready to arrive at my house if YB makes another threat to my person regardless if YB is sober or drunk and will order YB to watch his behavior. I like that 

[mintopewku]

I'm all for helping out family, but ideally there should be a goal set....like an moving date or a saved amt of $.  Family is important, and life is usually better with them in it.  But ppl take advantage---family shouldn't.  He should earn his keep, be respectful & certainly try not be so rude & to ever blame his actions on alcohol!  Really??  I wonder how old YB is and what he's done to even get in such a situation. 
Again family is important.  But a marriage is between a man and a wife, really family doesn't get between the marriage.

[fc2]

I'm all for helping out family, but ideally there should be a goal set....like an moving date or a saved amt of $.  Family is important, and life is usually better with them in it.  But ppl take advantage---family shouldn't.  He should earn his keep, be respectful & certainly try not be so rude & to ever blame his actions on alcohol!  Really??  I wonder how old YB is and what he's done to even get in such a situation. 
Again family is important.  But a marriage is between a man and a wife, really family doesn't get between the marriage.

YB is about in his early 40s. The reason he drinks alcohol is to help his lower back after he runs ourt of his prescribed pain medication which has been practically everday. I know YB drinks alcohol just for a hobby. Then, my wife complains about her YB calling her at her place of work and asks her for car rides and more money. I explain to her that he's manipulating her, but she's vulnerable

[hitch0403]

If YB blamed it on being drunk and you see how he has gotten too comfortable to the point of being a leech.....kindly get rid of him otherwise i feel you will be miserable.

[fc2]

If YB blamed it on being drunk and you see how he has gotten too comfortable to the point of being a leech.....kindly get rid of him otherwise i feel you will be miserable.

Agreed. It's just a matter of time with my wife's common sense to surface or grow some common sense?, I think? LOL. Kind of makes me wonder how long she can handle having her financial buttons being pushed by her YB? Time will tell. 

[hitch0403]

Sometimes blood is thicker then water FC....there are many in the world today be it family or friends that like to live the life of Riley  offa others.

Take the initiative and give YB a chance to contribute and be fair...otherwise tell him to take a hike.And set your wife straight if you do this in a fair way.Even God had righteous anger.

[marciaenglish]

I have a sister I haven't seen in 20 yrs. exactly for that very reason!  She is bossy, manipulative, and a total bully!  They say "blood is thicker..."!   I KNOW I am so much better off and happier!   

[devilroljin]

If after all you've said, and everything he's doing, and your wife still hasn't come to her senses, believe me, she will not grow common sense out of nowhere. You're better off taking the initiative, because she probably has no breaking point when it comes to family, and if you have a wait and see approach with her realizing the situation, you'll be waiting the rest of your life, unless for some miracle he pushes the wrong buttons with her, and trust me, he has to push ALL the wrong buttons, at once, for her to come to the conclusion that you guys have to evict YB.