Lost kids

[djohnson43]

I'm just curious but how many of you have lost a child to illness or accident? How long has it been? Do you still acknowledge that child at special times like when their birtday should be or the holidays?

[djohnson43]

Maybe if I expand on my thought I'll get some replies. The reason I ask the question is becasue I have lost a child to illness. She was 7 1/2 when she died and if she were alive now she would be 20 1/2. We do acknowledge all the milestones like birthday date of death etc. Not only for my husbnd and I but for our daughter who was  almost five when her sister died.

[ssmsurvey]

I have been fortunate to have not been through this situation (my kids are 7 and 10) though I know those who have. It is incredibly sad and I am sorry for your loss. One of my girlfriends lost a baby after 5 1/2 months of pregnancy when she was 18. She named her son and honors him every year. Mother's Day is especially hard for her because of her loss and that she has never had another child (she found out in her thirties that her uterus was detached and that is why she lost him).  I have another friend who lost a baby girl who was a couple months old. She died while sleeping next to her mother. Unfortunately, the mother was never the same and it ultimately lead her to bad decisions which broke up their marriage and put their 2 older daughters wellfare in jeopardy.
I still kiss my kids checks as they sleep every night. They are precious for whatever time we have them. 

[mmoore12002]

I myself have not lost a child but , my brother and sister in law lost a daughter on October 15th 2010 she had just turned 8 on October 9th. We celebrate her birthday and her date of death every year. On October 15th every year we release pink balloons in remembrance of her.  I believe it is important for the whole family.

[Getinonthis]

Sorry about your loss, I haven't any experience in that area?

[djohnson43]

I myself have not lost a child but , my brother and sister in law lost a daughter on October 15th 2010 she had just turned 8 on October 9th. We celebrate her birthday and her date of death every year. On October 15th every year we release pink balloons in remembrance of her.  I believe it is important for the whole family.

That anniversory is right after my daughters. October 12, 1999. She had her asthma attack four days earlier on the ninth and lasted in coma for the four days almost to the minute of when she had the attack. We do celebtrate like I said but we also know she is one of g-d's angels. Her little sister (my 10 year old) was conceaved  on the two year anniversory of her death.

[Wshngstr]

I am sorry for your loss. I am fortunate in the fact that I haven't lost a child. I cant imagine the pain you felt in losing your own. . It has been hard enough losing a mom recently. IF I were to lose a child which I pray never happens to me, I would want to celebrate their life. I would still celebrate their birthdays and stuff.

[djohnson43]

I imagine loosing your mom would be bad. Naturally my daughter is not the only family member we've lost. All of my grandparents are gone and now both of my husbands parents are gone as of when his mom died the beginning of August. And ironically I've gone to two of the four funerals for my grandparents. My moms dad died when I was two and she was pregnant with my brother so I'm the only grand he got to see. What got us though were not only my parents and my husbands parents there for my daughter, but my moms mom flew down from Jersey and my dads dad had just been moved up from Florida to Georgia so they were there too. My granddad made the comment that he had lived a good life and her's was just starting so it should have been him. 

[natashaspy]

fortunately i have never lost a child, pretty sure i'd go nuts if i did.  my sister lost her daughter when she was only a month old, but we still talk about her and still remember her birthday, day she died.  even though she was only here for a short time, she still has a place in our hearts

[djohnson43]

Rach will always have a place in our hearts too. Not only because she was my first born but like I already stated my youngest was conceived on the two year annivorsory. Rach actually named her before she died when she asked point blank if I was going to have any more kids and if yes could she name it. She went on to tell us the names she would choose and why. Her sister is almost the spitting image of Rach and even has her adventrous spirit. She can't replace Rach nor would I want her too and she is more of a hand full then Rach but still. The seventeen year old tells her little sister all about `her big sis'.

[tammypete]

I am so sorry for your loss.  I have no clue as to what I would do in that situation.  My heart goes out to you!

[Screwedupclick4life337]

Sorry for your lost

[WaulML6]

I'm sorry for your loss; my prayers are with you.

[tuscarorarain]

I think this should be in the off topic forum. I say that because I have made errors before. Just trying to help.
I have lost a child when I was pregnant with my last one. I was carrying twins and lost one of them. The other one made it and is three months old. David talked about in the Bible how the child he lost can't come down to him, but he can go to him. I sure hope this helps. I love my baby and looking very much forward to seeing him or her in heaven.
-Jesus loves you.

[acurtsinger2]

i had twin boys in 1988, born 3 1/2 months early.  one lived 2 days and one lived 22 hours.  i had 2 healthy kids after that, but wonder alot what they would have been like.  since 1988, the march of dimes has contributed to thousands of preemies, smaller and smaller, to make it to a healthy life.  God needs his angels too.