Will it ever happen for me

[marcee30]

I have been talking to this guy for a couple of months now, but the thing is he never really has time for me and when he does its always in the middle of the night (grant it he does work from 3-12) but he is off on the weekends and I still hardly see him. I am no ones midnight squeeze . He tells me that he spends a lot of time whit his children, which is fine with me and I don't want to come off as a selfish, but let him tell it his ever waking moment is with his kids, and thats fine I am in no way saying to not spend time with your kids. But something about that just seems a little fishy to me considering they don't stay with him they live with their mom which is where he is going to spend time with them. I have children too and they don't stop me from making a call when I have free time to do so. And hell if you really liked me a phone call is not hard to do. So now I have just come to the conclusion that he is still with this women and I don't want to be part of any drama.
I keep finding all these Mr.Wrongs and this is the first somewhat of an relationship that I have been in since February of last year when my X asked me to help him out of a jam and took this other girl out on my dime (I'm talking a couple of thousand). I have never been married and would love to have that dream come true but only with someone who loves me for real.
They say God brings people into your life for a lifetime and for a season....I just keep getting these seasonal guys. I am done, I am going to find out who I am first love me more and treat me better then deal with these men who mean me no good
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thanks for the ear FC

[egypt31]

WOW! sounds kinda familiar, I guess it seems as this happens to me as well, most the girls I have dated and decided to try and get serious with end up cheating on me, I have spent a lot of time single and have never been married either! I guess at thirty one years old, I wonder if I'm running out of time to start my own family, then I remember any thing is possible with God! I always pray that I won't have kids until it is the right time and I can take care of them like they should be taken care of, in the mean time it seems like I have helped raise many kids. My weird take on life is that I have an eight year old brother, and watching my dad and his wife try and raise him is unsettling, he is spoiled and ill mannered, I feel sometimes as they didn't deserve a child, but that is up to God and not me.

[egypt31]

I have been talking to this guy for a couple of months now, but the thing is he never really has time for me and when he does its always in the middle of the night (grant it he does work from 3-12) but he is off on the weekends and I still hardly see him. I am no ones midnight squeeze . He tells me that he spends a lot of time whit his children, which is fine with me and I don't want to come off as a selfish, but let him tell it his ever waking moment is with his kids, and thats fine I am in no way saying to not spend time with your kids. But something about that just seems a little fishy to me considering they don't stay with him they live with their mom which is where he is going to spend time with them. I have children too and they don't stop me from making a call when I have free time to do so. And hell if you really liked me a phone call is not hard to do. So now I have just come to the conclusion that he is still with this women and I don't want to be part of any drama.
I keep finding all these Mr.Wrongs and this is the first somewhat of an relationship that I have been in since February of last year when my X asked me to help him out of a jam and took this other girl out on my dime (I'm talking a couple of thousand). I have never been married and would love to have that dream come true but only with someone who loves me for real.
They say God brings people into your life for a lifetime and for a season....I just keep getting these seasonal guys. I am done, I am going to find out who I am first love me more and treat me better then deal with these men who mean me no good
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thanks for the ear FC

  Keep your trust in God he may be helping you out in the long run, Maybe he is telling you that they are definitely not your other half. Never give up though, it may not be someone you are looking for, maybe He will send someone who is looking for you, you never know, Sounds like your heart is true and for this world that is very unusual. I think some of us, He wants working for Him, and it is hard to find a match to suit you then. Someone that would help you be who you needed to be for Him and not drag you down. I think if you truly are searching for that companionship in life though keep your faith,   and make sure what you are asking for is what you truly want, You never know in life who God will lead you to meet! I will keep you in my prayers!!!!

[masked_brown_guy]

you right, it is probably not a good sign that he does not have his children living with him.

[queensurvey]

Keep your head up, keep on praying for the one and you will be surprised.Be patient and I wish you good luck in your search.

[Sendmicheck]

There is always that special one.  Ask and it shall be given unto you.  Seek and you shall find.  Knock and the door will be open for you.  You will find the right man soon or later.  Keep the faith.

[falcon9]

... keep on praying for the one ...  

Keep your trust in God he may be helping you out ...

Neither of these insubstantial faith-based attributions to supernatural intercession provide any practical solution.  Unless very young, most people come with some pre-existant 'baggage', (just as you do).  It's impractical to expect another person to leave such 'baggage' behind when you aren't, (and if you truly are, not just declaring that you are), that may become evident to someone who crosses your path.  If not, you can try reconciling your baggage with theirs.

[sherryinutah]

It sounds like the guy with the kids might be using the kids as an excuse NOT to get involved with anyone.  Don't take it personally.

Some people are NOT seeking a codependent relationship, including me. 

If that's truly what you want you could do some type of energy work; positive affirmations, power of prayer, etc. to attract someone.

I love being single and I recognize that this is a phase in my life where I have the opportunity to develop self love and grow as an individual.

 

[dreamyxo]

You're not his priority plain and simple.  Don't waste your time over a guy who is not into you.  Next.

[marcee30]

It sounds like the guy with the kids might be using the kids as an excuse NOT to get involved with anyone.  Don't take it personally.

Some people are NOT seeking a codependent relationship, including me. 

If that's truly what you want you could do some type of energy work; positive affirmations, power of prayer, etc. to attract someone.

I love being single and I recognize that this is a phase in my life where I have the opportunity to develop self love and grow as an individual.

 

I can appreciate your words when it comes to this, I do like the single life for the most part mainly because it is helping me find who I am and from past relationship I am still working on self love....thanks for the encouragement

[lmontgomery4]

You after to prayer and tell god a bout thing in life god is going to be with you all time god love you to.god got you.cover by the blood god is good all the time.just prayer about thing .god bless you.

[bigedshult]

sound to me like he is more in to his x than you so give him the boot.u will find someone that like you not ur body!

[mperez7372]

Everyone... all of us!!!... can always find time and we can always find an excuse.  I always try to remember that when I start to question when someone isn't coming around like I think they should.  If he wanted to be seeing you, he would.  Everything else is just an excuse.  If he wasn't seeing you because of true issues, you would know about it (because he would be communicating with you) every step of the way.  That's just how it works.  Forget the excuse makers.  That's the lesson I'm trying to learn.

[cateyes1]

It sounds like he is not that into you. stop looking for someone to be in your life and thats when someone will walk in, when you least expect it