Relationship Opinions...just for conversations sake...but curious

[skrogman]

Do you think a relationship works better with a woman older than the man, an older man/younger woman, or same age couple?  Personally, I am in a relationship where he is 13 yrs older than me and it is WONDERFUL.  90% of the time.  Except when he talks about when Nixon was Ike's VP, bread was 13 cents a loaf, a dollar a gallon for milk, bought his first car at $2100 and filled it at 37 cents a gallon...I wanna tell him ok,  bought my go go boots in the 70's.  But just wondering what the opinions are on the age difference thing in a relationship.  Oh wait, very sorry...please don't hit me with the I just discriminated against the gays thing...please speak up, too, if you're in a relationship with a much older partner. 

[lorettahknox]

Well I guess every relationship has it's little quirks. I think whatever relationship a person is in as long as it's happy, productive and safe I say go for it. Just remember not to make something out of nothing. Sometimes we point to something small and make a big deal out of it. Just relax and enjoy the precious gift that someone wants to spend their time with someone and out of all the people he could have chosen or she could have chosen he chose you to love. Isn't that incredible? He chose You. How about that? Amazing right?

[skrogman]

Amen, lorettahknox, Amen.  Thank you.  Yep, it truly is a blessing.   

[mary_k]

I like dating older men because I don't have to worry about them leaving for a younger women because I'm it...lol. Younger men don't know what they want.

[bigfoot951]

I think it is really different for each individual relationship.  It is hard to guess what is best but i would think over all it would be best to be of a similar age.  To each his own though, and we can't hardly choose who we fall in love with.

[volra1ge]

Personally I have always preferred older men. Women tend to mature faster than men do, I'm not bashing men I'm just saying sometimes it takes them a while.
Other cases I have seen way more mature men with same age girlfriends to.
As it's been said it all boils down to the individuals. If they are right for each other age doesn't make a difference. My boyfriend and I are 7.5 years apart, and in the beginning we got tons of flack. Once people saw how happy we are they stopped with the comments.

[visvern]

  i am with a young lady that i am a lot older than. she says she prefers me because i am mature enough to communicate with. we talk openly about every thing and it is wonderful. she says she is happier than ever been. who am i to argue. she is intelligent,educated,independent,beautiful,sexy young woman and i love her with all my heart and soul. so i say it is up to the couple to decide what is best for them

[laurindat]

I have not been in a relationship yet, but from conversations I've had with friends it seems the pairing of an older man and younger woman works out well since men supposedly take longer to mature than women. However, I've seen great couples where the woman is older and the man younger last long also. I guess it's really up to their own preferences and maturity levels.

[africanclaudie]

Each to his/her own....as previously stated. Having said that, in the last 2 weeks, two sets of my couple friends (one gay and one heterosexual) have just broken off after 11+ years together. The age difference eventually counted against them. The older ones thought the younger partners were too immature and the younger ones thought the older partners were to "fuddy-duddy". Sad.

[skrogman]

Wow...after eleven years together.  Oh my God, I wanted to cry just reading your thread.  I would be devastated.  But. after eleven years, the age thing came out then?  That scares me.  And thanks.

[marciaenglish]

My husband is ten years older than I ; yet, we get along great!!  I guess it is whatever works for you!

[Eugenia06]

I have had older boyfriends, and boy friends around my age. Now I have a younger boyfriend. He's 8 years younger than me. We been together for a little over 2 years now. He's wonderful, I couldnt ask for anything more. We appreciate each other and we are so happy together. At first everyone raised an eyebrow and assumed that it wouldnt work, I would have to say, this is the first relationship that Im so happy with. This is my fourth relationship and I hope it's my last. I would like to be married one day and live happily ever after. It's all about being mature and knowing what you want and knowing what you're ready for. Being the older one or the younger one in the relationship doesnt matter. What matters is that the both of you are happy together.

[squirrelgirl44]

I don't know. My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years and I am about 7 years older. Sometimes it is good, but sometimes there is a generation gap. Also, sometimes he just seems a lot more immature than I am! I think the age differences obviously are less important the older you are.

[lynnc35]

people are people I don't think age matters, you either find something you both have in common or you don't, no one is on the same page.

[queenofnines]

I've only dated people my own age, so I wouldn't know. I wouldn't think it would matter all too much if you love each other and mesh well, though.