My fiance basically says it's either my Mom or him

[BK_Adores_Chase]

because my mom hates my fiance and he says he's not going to spend the rest of his life taking her crap.  It's like, dude, that's my Mom, I'm not going to just stop talking to her, sheesh. 

[erinelise2]

Make it a rule that you aren't going to ever talk trash to them about the other one. Clearly tell them that and then stick to it - which is the toughest part. Find someone else to vent too. Unfortunately their relationship may never improve. Good Luck...inlaws are always tricky even when you like them.

[brum7814]

I'm not sure if you're making posts just to get your 30 posts in or not.  I'll just play along though.  From previous stuff of yours I've read it doesn't seem like you mind taking his abuse (physical and mental), so I don't really know what kind of help you expect someone to give you.  No one but you can cut those chains.  We're not there to pick you up after he tosses you down a flight of stairs, be your bff when he cheats on you, or to play the psychology role when he makes unreasonable ultimatums.  If you don't have a grasp on common sense and survival skills, maybe you should go take some survival classes to learn some basic human instincts.  Either way, posting isn't going to help you in this situation.

[Shandara09]

If what the previous person said is true and you've posted all of those things, it sounds like your mom has good reason to hate him.

[Mykat]

If what the previous person said is true and you've posted all of those things, it sounds like your mom has good reason to hate him.

I was going to say...but Shandara09 beat me to it.  It certainly seems she has good reason, I am sure she loves you and feels you should have a person in your life that will treat you with love and respect.  For him to now tell you to choose between him and your mother...I'd say that is a big red flag to consider.

[sigmapi1501]

If anyone, ever, gives you an ultimatum be it a boss, family member, significant other, choose the other thing/person. An ultimatum is a controlling measure. You don't want to be controlled, do you? Nobody wants to be controlled in love, life, or.career.

[marcar1008]

I think he should respect you and your mother too. If he doesn't respect you and treats you like he did as we all read in your other post, he never will. You deserve something better. Your mother will not be in this world forever. *bleep*, LOL I would probably kick that guys *bleep* if he through my daughter down the stairs. Thank God your still alive. Hang that guy from his *b all s* from the tallest tree!  

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Make it a rule that you aren't going to ever talk trash to them about the other one. Clearly tell them that and then stick to it - which is the toughest part. Find someone else to vent too. Unfortunately their relationship may never improve. Good Luck...inlaws are always tricky even when you like them.

 

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I think he should respect you and your mother too. If he doesn't respect you and treats you like he did as we all read in your other post, he never will. You deserve something better. Your mother will not be in this world forever. *bleep*, LOL I would probably kick that guys *bleep* if he through my daughter down the stairs. Thank God your still alive. Hang that guy from his *b all s* from the tallest tree!  

lmao haha maybe i will
 

[dmahoney]

It seems that you complain about him everyday on here. If you dont like anything about him, then why are you engaged to him?      Might want to ask yourself some tought questions. 

[oonamas]

Sounds like this relationship is already doomed. Cut him loose so you can get on with your life and find yourself a good quality guy. Trust me, if you waste time hanging onto this guy it will just end up being wasted time that you regret later on. You don't want to have to start your whole life over a year or two from now because you didn't break up with a guy that was obviously wrong for you. Start your life now!

[ladycasshmere]

I know that's right. She brought you into the world. For me its the opposite. My guy's mom drives me nuts.I dont feel bad about avoiding her either because out of her kids he is the only one who visits and does for her. She is always putting people down but I would never make anyone choose me over their own mom!

[africanclaudie]

It is hard to make the right decision where the heart is concerned, "BK_Adores_Chase". The advice from all the previous members are sound. Picture yourself in 5 years' time - with or without him - then make a decision. I wish you wisdom and luck.

[dreamyxo]

Listen to mom.  From what you say about him here your mom has every right to hate him.  He sounds like a complete and utter grade A a$$whole.

[falcon9]

Disregard your mother's manipulative opinion and go with your own since her opinion has nothing to do with your relationships unless you want it to.  See the situation from his perspective; why should he have to put up with her "crap" just because she's your mother?