My fiance is always telling me to stop caring about what other people think abou

[BK_Adores_Chase]

t me.  I can't help it, I feel like generally it's in most peoples nature.  I mean if I do my hair because I don't want people to think I'm scrubby, whatever, that's my business...OR like I always feel bad for my parents and he is always wondering why...I can't help it, I'm compassionate...so be it.

[oldbuddy]

t me.  I can't help it, I feel like generally it's in most peoples nature.  I mean if I do my hair because I don't want people to think I'm scrubby, whatever, that's my business...OR like I always feel bad for my parents and he is always wondering why...I can't help it, I'm compassionate...so be it.

So are you telling us you care about what he thinks about you? Take his advice and tell him you don't care what he thinks and see how he reacts.

[valitaw]

Yea.... no one can care about you as you care about yourself. Forget what other people feel or think about you because they may be using you as their target to feel better. make and keep yourself happy.

[loulizlee]

Is this the same fiance that knocked you down the stairs, or do I have the wrong BK?

[BK_Adores_Chase]

t me.  I can't help it, I feel like generally it's in most peoples nature.  I mean if I do my hair because I don't want people to think I'm scrubby, whatever, that's my business...OR like I always feel bad for my parents and he is always wondering why...I can't help it, I'm compassionate...so be it.

So are you telling us you care about what he thinks about you? Take his advice and tell him you don't care what he thinks and see how he reacts.

YOU ARE A GENIUS, THANK YOU FOR THAT!

[mattc4000]

You do need to start worrying what others think.  While it is normal to feel that way, you're life will be so much more enjoyable by ignoring those with negativity.

[smarie62]

I understand exactly what you are saying, because I am that way.  I always care about what others think of me and I really do not know why because whatever a person does good or bad there is someone out making judgment about you regardless of what you do, so just do you and stop thinking about what others think because that is something that I am learning to do for myself.

[inkfection]

i think it's to each their own. i don't care what anyone thinks about me except my family and my children. everyone else can get stuffed if they don't like me. at least that's how i see it. i actually enjoy ppl, their ideas, and their company. however, if someone doesn't like me or what i do or what i think. that's just too bad. there's no reason for me to feel bad over someone i don't care about. it has worked out good, less baggage for me to carry around.

[patrick122068]

I have worried most of my life about what people think of me and hopefully some day i will get to the point of not giving a dam, and stop caring about what the heck others think of me.

[Phx0808]

At age 20, I used to care about what people thought about me
At age 40, I didn't people care what people thought about me.
At age 50, I find they haven't been thinking about me at all. 

[sak4kat]

Personally I'm one that doesn't care what others think for the most part.  I do however care about my character and how I'm portrayed..ya know first impressions.  I don't however put much time and energy towards what others think about me as far as my style, my morals, my values - that's my business and as the other gent said; ultimately nobody cares.  There is only one person in the end I'll be answering to when it's all said and done.

[PGS28]

He's right. Many people are judgemental by default and are going to seek something negative to say about you regardless of how you wear your hair.  It's ok to accept constructive criticism to better yourself but when it comes down to it YOU have to live YOUR life.

[timandvicky1]

First off....Never sweat the small things, worrying can be so stressful.  Second...Consider why you worry so much what other people are thinking/saying, is it a lack of self esteem?  You will always find somebody that will say bad things, or talk behind your back no matter what you do. 

[lvstephanie]

I think it's in everyone's nature to care what others think of you to some extent. If not, then people wouldn't wear deodorant, wouldn't shave, do their hair, etc. It becomes a problem if you feel like you need others approval for everything you do. You have to know how to be yourself and for core characteristics of yourself, you shouldn't have to change just to please others. If, for example, your core values dictate that deodorant is harmful to the environment, then don't put it on and learn to accept that others may not approve. I think there's a balance between pleasing others to be a member of society and doing whatever you want to be yourself. We are social creatures and so want to fit in with society, but at the same time we're not robots and so don't all have to do the same thing.

[vee46]

i totally agree with your finace-live your life and if your happy within yourself don't change to please others-because at the day you're still be in your own skin-one has to make themselves happy first before anyone else can.