DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, BUT TO WHAT EXTENT?

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Okay, so do what makes you happy...that's what my fiance always says..but sometimes that is hard for me...I know what I'm about to say as an example might make me sound like a horrible person, but growing up my Dad wasn't there for me...I would go to his house every other weekend my whole life, and even then I would literaly stay locked in my room the whole time because I was extremely shy.  Now that I'm an adult and have a family of my own, he is always calling me (I guarentee if him and my stepmom didn't get divorced things wouldn't be the way they are) and now that he has no one I feel like he wants me to fill the void..he often calls me complaining about his life or crying about something, wanting me to come over that second for "a hug"...but to be honest, I don't have the time, OR THE DESIRE, to go over there..I feel sometimes talking to him on the phone is a chore that I feel pressured to check of my list and I don't like going over there really...we don't know each other, he talks 95% of the time, and I would rather be doing something else...but I feel bad because he's alone and whatever...like I'm obligated to do it...but if I make MYSELF happy I feel like I'd be hurting him.