I just don't know what to say

[marcee30]

I know these events are not but blessing...last year in August I had some company over and he stole from me while I was in the bathroom. I thinking to myself who does that kind of stuff, well with God blessing I was able to forgive this person. I mean he stole from me but to make matters worst he actually stole from my children. I keep a change can as I'm sure most of us do. This is my children "don't ask me for money go look in your change can" I had been saying it for a while. Lets just say it wasn't a few measly dollars anyway long story short this call calls my job last Saturday, I'm thinking is this a joke. What does he have to gain by playing with my emotions. Why would he call and stir up emotion I have already prayed about. I had a battle in my mind to forgive him but it was by the grace of God that I was able to. Well his version of the story was I was set up from the word go. Someone that I meet several years earlier sent him to steal from me. Now of course I didn't believe him but the things he told me he could not have known unless the guy I knew told him. Anyway this guy proceeds to tell me that the other guy needed the money to pay child support to keep him out of jail and he still ended up going to jail for insufficient payments on child support so stealing form me didn't help him at all. This guy also tells me that he has nothing but bad luck since this happened and that he wanted to apologize to me. I could of went off on him but I figured it God put this on his heart so who am I to turn him away. Sometimes it something as simple as forgiving someone that could change who they are as a person. Some people wouldn't even listen to that subconscious thought in there mind that's telling them they need to do right. I'm just glad he had had the courage to do so, all this time has passed and he sought me out to make amends. Thank Father God for showing him right

[newgrandpa]

"Father forgive them for what they do" but be aware and protect yourself as well. Searching for a very old book called "Wisdom of the Subconcious Mind", any suggestions?

[laine39]

I'm sorry, but I am not forgiving in that way. If someone steals from me they are done and out of my life.

[lindacmt]

Forgiveness is mandatory for a happy life. To forgive people does not negate their accountability, though.

[workmama]

I'm sorry, but I am not forgiving in that way. If someone steals from me they are done and out of my life.

+1
I totally agree. I have learned through experiences that I can no longer give people more than a first chance. Some people might think I am mean, but I am just protecting myself and my son.

[Screwedupclick4life337]

Wow sorry but I hate a thief

[LAkathi]

I too can forgive but I can not forget.

[natashaspy]

you have to be able to forgive to go on with your life.  not for them, but for you.  that doesnt mean you have to forget though...be sure to proceed with caution where this person is concerned.

[kristalie]

Forgiveness is one of the most beautiful features in a person. I feel sorry for people that are stuck in their angry state of never forgiving anyone.

[handllucas]

I can forgive someone for that, but I would make it clear that I cannot trust them anymore.

[Cuppycake]

You do not have to forgive trash like that for anything. It has nothing what-so-ever to do with god  anyway. If you don't need it love it or use it lose it. That works for every single thing in your life.  Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative in your life. If someone is poison to you cut them out of your life as if they are cancer. Period.

[marcee30]

I agree, there is nothing wrong with forgiving and I beleive that has everything to do with God, the devil will have you holding on to something that is not yours to bare, so yes I will continue to forgive but I will never forget. God sends thimgs your way for a reason there is a lesson to be learned, its how you deal with what he is showng you.
Have you ever wondered why the sme things continue to happen and you can't figure out why....to me its because you have not learned the lesson and until you do things will never be right. Forgive and move on

[Dani630]

You are an amazing person to forgive but I hope you will never forget and view them with caution. They hurt you and your children and allowing them opportunity to do so again is not fair to your kids, or yourself. People like you are inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

[TOMAS7]

This thread belongs in off topic, it has nothing to do with suggestions for FC.

[springsgardner]

This thread belongs in off topic, it has nothing to do with suggestions for FC.

That's totally true that this belongs in another forum. But, since it started, I wanted to say that I'm sorry you went through this and I agree with the other posters, it's important to forgive. That doesn't mean he deserves your trust back or should be allowed in your house again.