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OmgZomb13

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Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« on: January 20, 2012, 07:33:20 pm »
I know this is off topic but ugh I'm tired of feeling so depressed. My girlfriend asked out a guy but she said it was an accident. Okay. Then today I read her text and she told him she missed him and that he doesn't have to be shy that he can be a little touchy. I don't know what to believe from her.

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2012, 10:37:38 pm »
She's seems to be getting into the cheating phase. I'd stay leave her. But that's just me. Girls who play around with their Boyfriend's feeling is not a girl I'd like to have. From experience a girl cheated on me and I gave her another chance, but it didn't end well. If she already show signs of flirty-ness then it's going to be a no deal. If your in a relationship shouldn't you feel happy instead of depressed? I'd leave her man.  :thumbsup:

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #2 on: January 20, 2012, 10:46:38 pm »
i know what i would do if it was me i would tell her to leave you alone anyone who cheats weather you be gay or straight he or she does it once they don't stop i am not gay but i have alot of gay and bi friends it is no different then if they abuse you you don't have to put up with it

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #3 on: January 20, 2012, 11:17:57 pm »
The thing is that I coldnt leave her or tell her to leave. We live together. I moved in with her when I was 16 because I got pregnant. Now my son is 8 months going on 9 and she really loves him. Plus her dad is fixing a room for my son to stay in instead of the 3 of us sharing one. I can't leave because I don't know anyone out here. And I can't ask her to leave because well it's her house. She says she'll break up with him after a while because she feels bad for asking him out "accidentally." Ugh my son really loves her. He calls her mama. And to just separate them would be like separating me and him. I feel like I should just wait for them to break up. But them again I don't really know how long that would take. He's coming over this weekend to play xbox with her and it's going to be really awkward. I told her I'd be in the backyard hanging out with my son but she insisted I watch her play. So I said yes. It's not even the weekend and I already distanced my self from her. I'm afraid to touch her or kiss her because my mind tells me she's not my girlfriend anymore. I don't know. I think I'll just go outside like I planned. I'd rather give her her space with her boyfriend.

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #4 on: January 21, 2012, 05:16:10 am »
Cut your loses and move on. She seems to be a cheater and therefore will never be faithful. Break up, go out and don't get involved for a while, enjoy yourself first.

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #5 on: January 21, 2012, 06:01:28 am »
He's coming over this weekend to play xbox with her
HE'S coming over...to YOUR house...where YOU live, WITH HER.....? WTF?? This is either being done intentionally to hurt you, or to fulfill HER needs, because she's a drama queen.

and it's going to be really awkward.

Well YA, it is......and it would be awkward for her, too if she was NORMAL. If she cared about you at ALL, inviting him over would never have crossed her mind. (He must be a dumb :bootyshake:, too, or he wouldn't want to be in that situation either.

she insisted I watch her play.
WHAT??  :bs: OK there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with this person. She WANTS to stomp on your feelings and your heart, and make you feel miserable, for whatever reason....I can't imagine what kind of person does this to another.

So I said yes.
:o WHAT?? :angry7: You can't be serious...?

my mind tells me she's not my girlfriend anymore.
YES your mind is telling you the truth!! Listen to your mind!!

I'd rather give her her space with her boyfriend.
You should give her her space - never mind the boyfriend. RUN! Run as far as you can from this miserable excuse of a human being, put as much space between this cold heartless witch and you as possible.
                    
How come it won't play?

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #6 on: January 21, 2012, 07:45:49 am »
He's coming over today. And she told me to clean the room and shower. I asked her if she's embarrassed of the way I look she said "well no it's just that you and the room look nasty right now." It's raining today and my plans to go outside are ruined. I'll just stay in a separate room. Thanks guys. I didnt really expect so many replies. I guess I'll have to clean up so she can look good for the guy. So much for not having feelings for him ans asking him out "accidentally."

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #7 on: January 21, 2012, 09:26:31 am »
How do you ask someone out accidentally?  I'm assuming you are about 17 correct?  Do you go to school or work?  What about moving in with family, where are your parents?  Do you have any other friends or family that can help you out?  If that's not an option you need to start planning.  If you are working you need to start saving up money for your own place.  Are you getting any kind of government assistance like WIC, foodstamps, section 8?


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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #8 on: January 21, 2012, 10:14:29 am »
It is easy to dispense advice based on a cursory view of what you have going on but some of these people haven't taken into consideration how long the two of you have been together, what you have shared, what you currently share, and whether your relationship can grow to be stronger as a result of her discretions.  I don't think that letting the bloggers of fusioncash be the jurors or supporters of your break-up(or not) is the route to go if you still have feelings for your partner. Communication has probably been attempted...have you tried seeing a relationship counselor to get some direction?

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #9 on: January 21, 2012, 10:17:58 pm »
Well the whole story is that my parents kicked me out of my house when I was 16 because I had gotten pregnant. Im 18 now and I barely aahave any contact with any family member. To ask them if I could come aback home is an extremely hard task. Ugh well we did go to counseling for a couple of weeks because she was insecure of me cheating. We stopped going a after a while and we were doing fine. Until she got a boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years. I admitted to her today that every fight we have brings us closer. And it really does. And it gets us even closer because it has to do with our son. We both apologize to him when we fight because we know that he senses the tension and ehe starts crying too. I went out of topic im sorry. Wehave shared alot and gone through so much together. Her family loves me and my son and they treat us like one of their own. I want to keep going strong. She told me today after her boyfriend left that she'll break up with him in a couple of days because she had a great friendship with him. So I told her okay. I was a total b***ch to her and him today. And I apologized. She said as long as my son and I are with her, she'll be happy. I highly doubt I make her happy. It's only my son.

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #10 on: January 22, 2012, 01:28:44 am »
I know this is off topic but ugh I'm tired of feeling so depressed. My girlfriend asked out a guy but she said it was an accident. Okay. Then today I read her text and she told him she missed him and that he doesn't have to be shy that he can be a little touchy. I don't know what to believe from her.

It sounds like you have a different understanding of what the rules of the relationship are than she does.  I would say that you deserve to openly and honestly communicate with her and hope she'll be completely honest with you.  One of the most important things to have in a significant other relationship is trust.  Sit down and talk with her and express how you feel about what she's doing.  Then...you can decide what's best for you and your child.  Good luck!
Have a great day!

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #11 on: January 22, 2012, 03:36:40 am »
Sounds to me like she was surprised the guy took an interest in her and she's kind of excited about his attention.  Doesn't seem like she is as close to you as you feel to her.  Best friend kind of relationship from her maybe, and you are more serious emotionally than she is about the relationship.  Good luck but don't leave yourself open to emotional destruction.  Things evolve, and sometimes just move on.  It's part of growing.

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #12 on: January 23, 2012, 08:13:54 am »
I told her she can go do whatever she wants. Date whoever she's interested in and whenever she's done I'll still be here for her. I opened up myself to her last night. I told her I was attached to her and everytime she dated someone I looked up informatioon on them. I told her if she finds someone that she can trust and love that she can stay with them. But me and my son would have to leave. I couldn't be able to stand it. If she started dating someone else and I'd just be on the sidelines just watching her be with someone else. I told her she could come back to me anytime..

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #13 on: January 23, 2012, 09:27:19 am »
i dont think you can believe anything from her. how can you ask somebody out by accident ?  and even if you do why not just say im sorry  i misunderstood you, i really appreciate the  friendship but i am seeing someone.

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Re: Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)
« Reply #14 on: January 23, 2012, 10:25:01 am »
sounds like a soap opera to me

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