Why do people stay mad at each other for so long?

[dreamongirl]

because some people can be so hard headed. or they always think that they were in the right. or maybe they want to wait untill the other person says something first

[Jiresa]

Pride

[capriceharris]

I think the reason people stay mad because they don't know how to for give. The reason I say that because they need to have a new heart, a heart of flesh and not of stone....... People always bring things up that has happen in the past but Just "think GOD" he is not like man.  When we ask for forgiveness from GOD it is a done deal. Pray for people that hurt you and ask God to give them a forgiving heart, and a heart loving heart.

[Skyisbluetoday]

Staying mad with someone sometime's doesn't solve an issue! Of course other's just don't know when to let an arguement go. 

[35klye]

i get really pissed off at the moment then forget it like an hour later

[sdenimandlace1]

My sister stay mad a long  time, the last time she was mad forever.  I just wave as she passes and she turns her head.

[Lusie]

Yea mom tends to get mad over nothing and she can stay that way for years. She is mad at me because I left the state a year ago and wont go back to live.

[tashamjoy]

Its hard because i never used to get mad but lately i have changed i just feel in all my relationships i am doing all the work and relationships are very hard and i feel like i was getting taken advantage of it is just really hard i think i just have to let go and understand i do not have to be the one putting so much energy into relationships it has to be a two way thing i am the only one calling and trying to see them, sometimes i feel like i should just stop until they make a move i just feel extremely lonely and alone 

[SherylsShado]

  I know someone that's been mad at me my entire life.  I can't "win" with them, I can never do anything to please them.  I can't say the "right" thing or can't act like they think I should act.  This person is always criticizing others and harshly judging them.  A few days ago I got "fed up" when they started insulting me again over an issue that's been brought up repeatedly in the past and I let then know that people really shouldn't criticize others when they have a bigger issue of their own to take care of.  (Sort of like the lady that criticized her neighbor's dirty laundry on the outside line and then discovered the reason the laundry looked so bad was because she needed to take care of washing her own dirty windows!!)   
 This person is FUMING mad at me now and I just think it's funny.  (It's a sad way to live one's life but it isn't my fault they don't know how to live!)

[gingerbug56]

SOMETIME ITS BECAUSE OF LACK OF UNDERSTANDING AND SOMETIMES ITS BECAUSE THE OTHER PERSON IS SO BULLHEADED TO LET THINGS GO.

[CarolGalicia]

All the answers are correct....it takes two to make it takes two to break it...if one responds and the other doesn't then you're nowhere

[coralnymph9]

Just change the direction in your life and stop thinking about it.....Hopefully it will helpt o forget and forgive....

[Irmarie]

its human nature, some forgive and forget but many don't

[habby82]

Well one reason for me would be that you forgive but you never forget. I get in arguments with my boyfriend aka babby dad and i stay angry and mad at him all the time inside even though i'm talking to him and still making his dinner washing his clothes and all the other things i do , I  forgive him on the outside but on the inside i'm still angry or mad at him for something but you know it's not nothing petty it's big stuff that he knows he does and i still forgive him but like i said really on the inside i am mad at him! And i want to go and sleep in a diffrent room or welll you know! you get my point right?

[lbryanwf]

When someone does something so horrible that you do get mad at them, you have to look at the situation in it's entirety and decide certain things. For instance, my husbands nephew, at the age of 45 hooked up with a younger woman who had a 3 yr old. To make a long story short, he began beating the child, got caught, charged and convicted of felony child abuse. The sick thing is that the childs mother had no desire to protect her own child. In fact she was only concerned that the situation would mess up "the relationship. Because of that, she never got the child back, and he went to live with his father. To this day neither has owned up to doing anything wrong, blaming the State of Florida for "overreacting" to the situation. Certain things cannot be forgiven, and this is one. Am I still mad? YES! But not in a way that impacts my life in any negative way. I've just written them off completely they are dead to me.