HE CHEATED BUT WE'RE GOING TO WORK IT OUT

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Yeah it hurt me but I believe he is sincerely sorry and I think it's the slap in the face I needed to try and fix our relationship which has been going downhill for the past few years.  I'm kind of glad it happened because things are better between us then they have EVER been and I intend to keep it that way.  I try to look at this positively instead of negatively.  I watched some videos by Sheri Meyers and they really helped me understand what has happened and move past it to work on building a new life.  We haven't been fighting, when before we would fight all day long, so now our kids have a better life as well.  His friend told me but I got him to confess and we moved on from there.  We've been together for 5 1/2 years.

[kingozzy]

Best of luck to you!

[mc1962]

I hope that things work out for you.  It is nice that you can have a clean slate to work with. I wish you both luck. 

[dreamyxo]

I hope he learned his lesson and doesn't cheat again.  I don't believe the saying once a cheater always a cheater.  Some people are serial cheaters and some people do learn their lesson and don't do it again.  I hope he is the latter.  Good luck to you both.

[pattitude1219]

I wish the best of luck to you & your hubby. You are def a better person than me. I've. Den cheated on twice, that I know of. First.my ex husband, actually he did it 2 times that I know of. So 3 times, at least. The first was a friend of mine. A new friend. I found out later that she just befriended me to meet my husband. She asked him to work on her car & they didn't come back for several hrs. When he came back, he was on crutches. Don't remember the reason they gave. When I asked for the hospital instructions, they said they lost them. Later, he was so guilt ridden, he fessed up. Also, he got ant bites in his crotch. Apparently, they did it in the woods. I thought, with a smile, serves him right. He suffered for days. He was abusive, so when he was with the 2nd woman, I hoped he would leave for good.

The 2nd man, I really loved him, more than anyone, still do. But I just consider cheating so unforgiveable. We were having probs, and I left but we were working things out. He asked me to come back. So I thought, ok let's try it again. I found out that he was talking to someone online. You may think that's not cheating, but I do, and it hurt that he was looking for someone before our relationship was completely over.

Again, I wish you the best!

[ghunter]

I am happy you can forgive him and move on with your life, at least for the kids.  I have never been cheated on with my husband of 35 years (THAT I KNOW OF)  but I wish you the best and pray he won't cheat again.

[mrstina08]

I wish u guys the best. Things can turn around.

[kapeh12]

My sister went through something similar with her husband a few years back.  It got to the point he almost moved out on her and their 5 kids.  But eventually he came back asking for forgiveness and she took him back.  It was rough for a while, and she admits now occasionally she has questions/fears when he's out - but she's had to teach herself to trust him again, and he's been working to be worthy of her trust.

Their marriage seems much stronger now - so take heart that there is hope.  Just be prepared for some rough roads in the near future, but hopefully it will be worth it for you too!

[mawhite63]

Best of luck to you. There's a really great book called "The Divorce Remedy" which can help too. The author's website is at

http://www.divorcebusting.com/sb_the_divorce_remedy.htm

[alwaysinstyle]

wow ,i  admire you for being such a strong  person.how you gonna do this?
my husband was cheating on me.i didn't give him a chance.there is no chance for such A losers.i don't get it why?when?where?i mean really.he has everything he always wanted....


or maybe not everything.i left him.there is no excuses at all.


god luck to you though!!!

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Well one of the things that Sheri Meyers says, which makes sense for my situation, is to think of the cheating as a symptom of the illness, illness being a relationship where the partner is begging for attention that is going else where or things have gone stale or the love life isn't thrilling anymore, ect.  I now realize more in depth how much a relationship really takes to stay strong and this was a HUGE life lesson for me, I feel like I learned a lot from what happened to me.

[amstewart]

True, but it isn't your fault!  Why is it that guys can cry about not getting what they need/want so it's ok to be unfaithful?  There is more to life and a relationship than sex.  It makes me sad.  I wish you the best of luck!

[acurtsinger2]

most people who do that have a certain kind of character...i hope for your sake it isnt something you have to deal with over and over

[briannajeanxo]

goodluck! kudos, id never be able to do it!

[fer11944]

Extremely happy you found the courage to forgive him. Not an easy thing but is something that can be overcome if both of you want to. The important thing is communication since it is the foundation of trust. Keep trying and best of luck to the both of you.