fight with spouse.

[bigedshult]

what do u do when you have a big fight wit your spouse? we jus.t had a big one how do u make up with them

[ptfunds]

First I do something to cool down and allow myself to think of all of the things that provoked me into an argument.  When I'm done venting it all in my head I next try to think about where my other half was coming from.  I put myself in their shoes in other words.  Once I've done that I think about what I really want to happen most and how important the content of the argument really is to me.  If getting along and having a great relationship is most important and the subject matter isn't I let it go, apologize for my part, and go on.  If the subject is important to me I think about how my spouse must feel about it and approach them with that understanding.  Then try to tell them why my position is important to me.  I find this process works well for me.  Good luck.  Life is short.  What we argue about is rarely worth it.   

[poppy1]

Seperate (rooms) from each other to cool off and think about what you just did, let her think also.  It's best if everyone says that they are sorry.  Doesnt matter who goes first. Little fights are just part of love. 

[ghunter]

Let everyone cool down and then when you think about it, the fight was not worst it.  If you were wrong go ahead and admit it and say you were sorry and I am sure he will forgive you.  If he was wrong then he should say he is sorry and make up.  It is nothing like making up.

[ancmetro]

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