Is it wrong?

[mh874892]

Is it wrong of me to expect to be paid for things in a timely manner? I helped a friend out back in April with the understanding that she would pay me $50 upon completion. Now every couple of weeks when I ask her about it, I get a  excuse about why she doesn't have the money. Yet, we have mutual friends and I see on facebook where she's going out on weekends and shopping and things like that, so obviously there's some extra money. Is it wrong of me to expect to be paid before blowing money on things like that? Plus, our families have known each other before we were even born and still are on good terms. Her dad even does some work with my grandparents. I would think most people would not want to make things awkward for everyone, right?. Maybe I am naive in thinking people's words actually mean something these days.

[ghamalian]

I mean, is this a serious question?

Of course it's not wrong to expect to be paid in a timely manner. I don't really know what to tell you. Maybe come up with a payment plan or something that she pays you like $10 a week or something. It might be she doesn't budget well and blows money, so $50 might be too much at 1 time.

[lannl]

You most certainly should expect to be paid back. I would get more stern with her and point out that you know that she has extra money from what you read on facebook. It happens all the time, people don't pay back.

[poppy1]

I expect to be paid when I do work for someone , right when I am done. I have never had a problem with family paying.  And have always used paperwork for others that I do work for. That way there is never a problem.

[kingozzy]

Some people will just put off paying you because you are letting them get away with it.  I think it is time for you to make a stand and demand the money that you earned and were promised.

[acurtsinger2]

some people are not good at paying back..i have a friend that has borrowed 20 from me, forgot about me, and came and asked for 20 more a few months later...so now i don't give anyone any money unless it's my son or daughter..i just tell them i'm broke.

[tantricia44]

You're right, you did the job & you need to get paid. You shouldn't have let it go too long & confronted her head on. I would have asked her everyday & until she paid me. Confront & bring up the issue that you know she can't be totally broke if she going out clubbing or dinning. If she gives you the response that you don't like or another lam excuse, tell her you'll bring the issue up with both your families. If you got this written down on paper, you could take her to court. My blood boils at the fact that she claims to be broke but is an all out lie with the evidence all splashed out on FB! Next time never do a job for family or friends,  & stick with real customers. Good luck!

[mhenry1]

I don't think that it is wrong to want to be paid in a timely manner at all. People should have the respect to pay you back quickly when they borrow. Then there are some people who lend u money and want it back the very next day and are completely ridiculous about it. It was $5. really???

[mirely]

well i`ve been through that and that`s exactly how i feel`t i let my friend borrow 200 dollars and she said she would pay me in 2 weeks so after those 2 weeks i let her know that i wanted my money but as usual she gave me excuses for like 3weeks and she would always make comments about going clubbing going out to eat going shopping so i started getting mad because oubiously if she had money to go shopping and all that she has my money to pay me so mad and not knowing what to do i told her we needed to talk i was as honest as i could without being rude and i straight up told her i wanted my money i let her borrow that money knowing she really needed it and i want it back i told her how does she have money to go shopping but she dont have my money to pay me and she did`nt know what to say then to pay me.After that we still are friends she just knows when she needs money again to not even think about asking me

[sdenimandlace1]

No it is not wrong to expect to get your money back.  Just lart her know you know she is blewing money on other things.

[welob77]

I for one think that if you are owed a payment on a certain date you should be concerned  if the payment is late. In todays society, a lot of people think nothing of not paying a debt. Even if it it from a friend, company or your job you have a right to be upset if you are not paid on tim.

[gaylasue]

You have every right to expect to be paid when you are told you will.  However, sometimes it may turn out to be a good investment against future loss if you don't get paid back.  An expensive lesson learned is hard to forget.

[ktheodos]

no....it's not unreasonable, just be patient and persistent, sometimes people hope you'll forget-someday your friend will need you for something or truly appreciate you

[froggylover227]

It is not wrong of you to expect to be paid back, especially if it was a mutual agreement. No one is saying take her to court over the matter, but maybe you should bluntly approach her and mention to her that she obviously has enough money for extra things as per her Facebook postings, and that she still owes you $50. It may be awkward because of how close you guys seem, but if you approach the situation in the right way, it shouldn't cause any problems. Other than that, if she needs money in the future, I wouldn't give it to her, and she asks why, just tell her because of the last experience. Good luck!

[mh874892]

Well I'm glad I am not overreacting on this and appreciate everyone's opinions. She has said (once again) that I will have a check this week or next. We'll see if anything has changed. It is hard to confront her because we have both moved to different towns and now I do not see her anymore. So I have resorted to every 2 or 3 days texting and e-mailing her about it, so there is no way she can conveniently forget. If nothing else works, I will just contact her family. I feel immature running and "telling mommy" but goodness this has been going on 6 months! I don't know what else to do.