WHY SO MANY PEOPLE DO NOT KNOW HOW TO BE A TRUE FRIEND?

[MollyAlice1]

TRUST ME, ITS NOT HARD AT ALL.  ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS BE HONEST, SPEND TIME, AND BE THERE WHEN SHE/HE NEEDS YOU THE MOST, AND THE REST WILL FALL INTO PLACE.  I GUESS MOST OF THEM, DONT EVEN LOVE THEMSELVES, SO THEY DONT KNOW HOW TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE WHO CARES FOR THEM.  TAHTS WHAT I SEE OUT OF IT. WHAT DO YALL THINK???

[lynnc35]

Sounds like it is time to meet other people, some people only need someone around as a stepping stool, when it is convenient for them, well take that away when they need you, and they might start finding out what they are doing.

[kaileemichelle07]

 I havent had any luck with friends cant find any who arent two faced

[salasdavid]

I think that its really hard to get a true friend.  In my opinion I think that I dont have any friends because at the end of the day if you need something from them they are not there for you. 

[d1cheetah]

Sometimes, many times... they don't recognize they need help.  You see it, but they don't.  This current situation has taken over their actions, be it addiction or self expectations.  Be a friend, but realize you have to be only a voice to them, trying to open their eyes to the situation.  Your emotions have to take a back seat to your caring for them.   You may have to be there for them...before you can be there with them.

[inertia4]

I don't know about that. These days people are guarded. You cannot just trust anyone and think everything will be alright. I believe that everyone get to have one real good friend. All the others would be acquaintances.

[SherylsShado]

Different people have different ideas of "friendship".  Some people only be-friend those that they can take advantage of or use in some way.  Some people are only looking for people that they can hang out with and have a good time with, but they aren't interested in true friendship.  True friends are hard to find...when one has to go through a real crisis, that's when you'll find out who your true friends really are.  

[Abrupt]

I don't know about that. These days people are guarded. You cannot just trust anyone and think everything will be alright. I believe that everyone get to have one real good friend. All the others would be acquaintances.

I pretty much agree with you regarding having one real good friend. 

I sort of disagree on people being guarded though as I find people tell me way more than I would ever want to know (occasionally I find myself thinking something along the lines of "why the 'eff' would you ever even consider telling that to anyone").  Maybe it is things they are just comfortable enough with or maybe I just look like someone you can trust and they want to feel the freedom of such disclosure -- I don't know.  I myself am fairly guarded and it always seems to end up being a problem in relationships.  I never discuss my weaknesses or reveal my vulnerabilities (nor do I tout my strengths) and I also conceal my dreams and desires from others.

Currently I just have acquaintances and not anyone I consider a friend, and while this can be a bit lonely I find it can also give a person perspective and strength.

[jenniferhoder]

I have to say that I am very fortunate to have at least 4 VERY good friends. My very best friend lives all the way across the country from me, but I know that ANY time I need her, I can turn to her! And I have 3 local friends that are always there for me too.... But I DO agree that most people DON'T know how to be a TRUE friend...

[pfrancis001]

sometimes that is exactly what i ask myself,  and i havent find the answers yet.  i met so many people and none i would call a true friend

[poppy1]

Sometimes you lose the best friends when you are growing up. Having friends in your older age takes more work because there is so much added responsibilities to your life. Its hard to spread your love , trust and attention around. Especially if it has to go too many places. Thats when people take short cuts. Lies, and untruths. Its good to have a good friend if you can find one.

[chii2]

Its because you'll find a few special people in your life that are willing to stay with you until the end, dont expect them though to commit to it because it is their decision whether to stay or not. Don't blame them for leaving, that just shows maybe it just wasnt meant to be.

[MollyAlice1]

  I AGREE WITH ALL OF YOU TO THE FULLILEST. PEOPLE HAVE THEIR OWN REASON WHY THEY CANT BE HONEST AND TRUSTWORTHY, BUT THOSE ARE JUST EXCUSES ON BLAMING THEIR ACTIONS, BECAUSE EVERYONE HAS A CHOICE ON BEING HONEST.

[hotmamma24]

i try to be there for my friends when they need me i love my friends alot i care about more than they will ever know am always going to be there for them i was there for my friend just the only day he didnt see to live nomore cuz of alot of problems n i talk him out of it from hurting hisself am so proud of myself n he said to me i didnt know someone care as much as i did thank god for him not doing that am so happy he here w me today

[twol]

Agreed. I've met so many amazing, fun and wonderful people in college. However, I can only call two true friends. I'm just grateful I do have friends that I can always count on out of the entire bunch.