Should I get a divorce????

[vmcutshall]

The only one that can answer that question is you. You might try to remember what it why you got married, before you make that decision. You could also make a list of pro's and con's and then think them over or pray about them if you are a praying person.

[tashamjoy]

No divorce is not what a child wants is a mother and father together !!!!! You need to teach your child commitement unless severe like domestic abuse or something otherwise you need to stay together when your daughter makes a mistake at 10 are you just gonna get rid of her thats it i disown you no?? You stick by her just like you need to stick by your husband but thats what i think that families need to stick together and not be so separate

[mtmailey]

it is up to you to do so but think about it first because it may cost you more than staying with the person also it is best to seperate anyway sometimes.

[Annella]

This is a hard one to answer because there are no details and only one side. You have been married for 7 years. Not a drop in the bucket by any means in this era. If he lies about another woman and you find out, then you have grounds. However, if he is a pathological liar and he just lies to lie, that can be helped with Christian Counseling. If he is not cheating or being abusive physically to you, then you are really ahead of the game. Yes, you must think about the children in any future actions. However, if the child is being subjected to watching the mother being physically abused, or being abused themselves, then it's time to leave.

Some variables that seem unbearable at the present need to be put in it's proper perspective. Sometimes a third party can see both sides and be the arbitrator between (Counselor). Choose your counselor wisely as there are a lot of counselors that are not reputable. Look for one that has a spiritual background. Sometimes if both sides can see where they are lacking, that is the start to healing.

[woods6]

The first two years are the hardest and every 5 years after that, it has been a struggle in my life as well but we just celebrated or 18yr. Been together 22yrs. If he is cheating then it wont work, Pray lots of prayer is needed not putting it out here.

[sbck0617]

Being divorced myself, it's not easy but living with someone who continually lies - it's a good environment for you and your child. People say stay together for the children. I don't necessarily agree with that because the children know when things are wrong. You have to do what's right for you and your child. I wish you the best.

P.S. My divorce turned out to be the best for me because my ex was not the right person for me.

[yaayme]

Wow, this is a little personal don't you think? 

[chel3179]

Someone said something about her teaching her daughter commitment by staying with the father. If she is allowing her husband to lie to her about everything, not knowing what he is doing behind her back, why should she teach her daughter to stay with a man that lies and is not honest with his partner??? That makes no sense to me. Situations could be worse off for the child if the parents are together. This is why I stated in a previous post, only SHE can make the decision on what's best for her and her family.

[debrar]

Not for me to say. 

[keith74]

Thats a hard one.  I don't know you or your spouse.  The best advice I could give would be weigh everything out the problems, children, and weather not it is fixable.  There are to many situations for me to just say yes or no.  I am sorry its just not that easy.

[lucky382001]

Are these significant lies like hiding the fact that he is seeing someone else/doing drugs/smoking...or are they little lies like he bought himself a beer/candy bar/played poker with his buds for an hour after work?  My wife has accused me of lying because I make a few extra pennies on the internet.  I tend to think that this is a tad nit-picky in the grand scheme of life.  Sometimes it comes down to a woman's perceptions versus a man's.  Over-all is your relationship sound?

Good point. Remember not all life changing events such as divorces turn out to be a wonderful thing, so think carefully. Do you love him? That could have some bearing and maybe you are letting him lie by not confronting him? Some people are habitual liars and need some help but sometimes it is more a difference of opinion on what happened. And so when you confront them you can also clear up a lot of misperceptions.

[tantricia44]

Okay, let's analyze this logically before going toward the divorce route.
Questions that you need to ask yourself
1. He's a liar. Is that the only problem or are there other things he does that is not acceptable?
2. The only time he tries to make it work & make you happy is when he feels you've had it with him.
3. How is he with his daughter? Is he supportive in at least the domestic area?
4. You've been together for 7yrs & married 2yrs. In those 7yrs up to now, how was your relationship with  him? Was he a truthful person when you were just boyfriend/girlfriend & change into a liar after the wedding? Or is he a liar from the day one?
5. Most importantly, if he's lied before to you about things then be aware that he's probably cheated on you. He might bring deadly things that can kill you into the marriage bed. Protect yourself.
 
If the answers to these questions mostly negative, create a pro/con list, If it's mostly con seek professional help. If he don't want to go that route to save the marriage then, you got your answer.

The way I see it is,that your relationship w/him is a one sided love relationship.You love him w/everything but he
doesn't love you enough for you to feel it.Love is unconditional,you love someone w/everything you've got & never withholding anything back.

For example, my big sis, is great in business but bad at picking men.LOL... When she got married,they divorced a month after the wedding vows.LoL.... She & Paul were fighting b/c he didn't believed he was manically depressed even after he was diagnosed.He didn't want to get medical counseling or spiritual counseling.My sis, is good in business & decided that staying with him was really a bad deal.You can't work with a business partner that doesn't want the relationship to work by compromising on the hard stuff.Same thing in a marriage b/c 2 people are involved.
My, sis loved this guy so much but she loved herself enough to know when to draw that line. In the beginning he seemed perfect.They're always perfect in the beginning,showcasing their best assents.It's only after the wedding do the real personality come out.

All I can say, is be honest with yourself & you'll be able to make the right decisions for yourself & your child.GOOD LUCK!

[brebrelewis28]

 :bootyshake:Well i was married to a man for 7yrs and it was great. helprd him though trucking school gave him 2kids and made a loving happy family for him i put all my dreams on hold to help him with what he wanted out of life people! Money changes things and people he got big headed and strat acting out it was a reallt hard desion to make after commecting to something for so long i finnaly had to let it go when you find your self not happy its really time to change somthings lifes to short not to be happy are to not be with someone who wonts to make you happy im happy i did because now im with a man who always puts me 1st.

[ancmetro]

         Seek help immediately! Try to save your marriage...after all it is your family.