SHOULD YOU BE MARRIED BFORE YOU HAVE A BABY??????

[mlacewell]

I JUST HAD MY 1ST  CHILD  AND I'M NOT YET  MARRIED. I HAVE A FEW PEOPLE WHO FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT HAVE KEPT MY  BABY AND  GOT MARRIED 1ST.. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK??

[raven1114]

I JUST HAD MY 1ST  CHILD  AND I'M NOT YET  MARRIED. I HAVE A FEW PEOPLE WHO FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT HAVE KEPT MY  BABY AND  GOT MARRIED 1ST.. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK??

i think you should tell them to mind their own business. while i do feel that the best environment for a child is two healthy, caring and committed parents raising it i don't feel that has to mean marriage. i also understand that this is not always possible.

[poulson]

i  agree people need to mind there own business

[TaintedLust]

I have an almost 2 year old and her father and I are not married. Someday we plan too but aren't rushing Into It. People's opinions vary but In the end It Is up to you and your significent other.

[scollontrade]

Has anyone asked the baby? I would bet that if you asked any child when it can answer properly they will tell you they would prefer two committed loving parents.

[dayezee]

I JUST HAD MY 1ST  CHILD  AND I'M NOT YET  MARRIED. I HAVE A FEW PEOPLE WHO FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT HAVE KEPT MY  BABY AND  GOT MARRIED 1ST.. WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK??

I think it's nobody's business but your own.  Being married doesn't automatically equate a happy family. 

As long as you take care of your baby and yourself, just hold your head up high and don't give the naysayers a moment's thought.

[anubabs]

People do need to mind their own business, because everyone's situation is different. I personally do not believe in abortion so if you'r pregnant, you keep it. According to the bible you should get married first before having children.

[ghunter]

Most of the reply is that people should mind their business, but I think you should be married before bring a child into this world if you are young.  By young I mean someone who is 18-25 years old, if you are in your thirties and feel that you will not be getting married and would like a child have one if you are financially able to take good care of that child, but a 18 years old have not began to live her own life and bring a child into this world alone is very hard and why?  If you don;t have too.  Enjoy your life while you can and if you decide you want children by all means do.

[dreamongirl]

i do not agree. babies aren't planned so you don't know if you really want to stay with that person forever. if you wanted to get married b4 the baby was born that would have been fine. who cares!

[masked_brown_guy]

Good for you, it does not matter if you should have, it already happened. What are you going to do to help out the situation?

[dreamyxo]

Yes you should.  Feel better now? 

[mdsepsakos]

I don't think you have to be married. Just in love.

[Azanne07]

My daughter was born before I was married. my son will be born before I am married. I will be married in June however so if i have more children in teh future i will be married.

[wittylance]

My mom wasn't married when she had me, so it doesn't matter to me. But I guess it would be better for the child to have two parents.  I know my mom didn't marry my dad because he got four other women pregnant so everyones situation is different.  My mother didn't want to be with a cheater and catch some kind of sexual transmitted disease so she broke it off with him.  She stayed signal until 3 days before my 10th birthday.  She met someone and finally got married and they have been married now for 10 years this October.  So your situation depends on you.  My mom would not give me up and she doesn't believe in abortion so here I am.  So I love her for that, she gave me a chance at life with her and it has been a good life.  Don't be hard on yourself you do whats best for your baby and yourself and My hat goes off to all single people who are trying to raise children in this time of day.

[thetop31]

if you got a baby but you didn't get married, what about if the father runs away, you have to care of the baby by yourself.it will be a hard time for you except you just want to have a baby, not a husband.