surprising i now say NO. because i just recently broke up with a girl, younger i might add. i know that i loved her, she just didnt really love me. since the day we met i knew shed been lying about being over her ex, since they hadnt been together in 2 years. but after a year of being with her, he suddenly showed up "out of the blue" to apologize for the way he treated her and i knew it was over between us that day. it was just a matter of time. his ex broke up with him and emailed me a bunch of stuff, that hes just using her to... u know. and that he hadnt changed, still drinks and abuses prescriptions. i could tell she still had feelings for him, but she couldnt do the mature thing and just be honest be me, it just grew over time, she became more distant... and all those promises, all those hopes, just got destroyed. i blame her mother for bringing her up being emotionally crippled for never puting the time in to show her kid how to deal with her feelings. she talked about monogamy, like its rare, and i found out, is rare. how dare she treat me like a cheater if a FEMALE coworker would call my cell to ask me to cover a shift, but it be okay for her to do what she did? again i blame her mother for spoiling her and making her feel like shes always right cuz shes the woman.
personally, i enjoy paying for dates, dinners, movies, etc to make the woman i care about feel happy. it makes me happy. but when a girl acts ENTITLED to these things, especially when her behaviour is sending signs of just wanting to use me, then i dont feel it necessary to continue to do those nice things. especially when a request for the same in return is denied with this reason, "you're the man, you're supposed to do that" and i actually doing it, but wheres the equality if the woman cant do the same thing for a man to show him he's appreciated. she always made every fight seem like nothing i had done was even remembered and appreciated.
Life handed me some bad cards, and when i was down, she abandoned me. for a guy who has the same issues im dealing with except worse off, but i get disregarded. both of our vehicles were recently totaled and both of us had gotten fired recently. so i realized im getting this "breakup fighting" treatment for those things, but she actually chose to have a guy with the same situation in her life over me?
--- wasnt real love.