Do Step-Fathers Count?

[dealdeal1]

I'm asking that question because I have 5 grown Step children that I helped their Mother raise from when they were ages 5, 9,11,12,13 and today being Fathers Day not one of them got in touch with me to wish me a Happy Fathers Day. I been thinking maybe Step-Fathers don't Count on Fathers Day! Or maybe I made a mistake somewhere in their life!

[pkrahmer]

Yes indeed Step parents(Dads and moms) do count! My father married a wonderful women after my mother died. My "step mom" is very much my mother. Infact since my father died I think we are even closer.
I'm sorry your children didn't contact you yesterday. People get very wrapped up in their own lives it's not necessarily a result of what you did or didn't do .   

[mlhnceh]

I am closer to my step father than my real father.  I'm sorry that your step children didn't contact you. 

[noirlupe]

I think it does.  I am a mother of 4 and mother of 1 step daughter.  She tells me she loves me more than her own mother, because I spend time with her, I do things with her and we have lots of fun.  I think its sad she feels that way, but her mom doesnt do much with her at all, she would rather read than do things with her child. 

[dreamyxo]

I guess it depends on the relationship they have with their step father.  You may have been around to help raise them but they might see your role in their life differently than you saw your role in theirs.  They may have seen you as someone married to their mother but not a "father figure."  I don't know why they didn't acknowledge you on father's day just making a guess as to why they didn't.

I have cousins who have a very strained relationship with their step mother.  There's bad blood between them but they are respectful to each other to their faces but my cousins don't care for her or her attitude much and she has been with their father since they were young.  They don't see her as their mother or a mother figure and they never will even though their own mother died a while ago.  I can bet they've never given her a mother's day card because of the relationship they have with her. 

[mrstina08]

Absolutely, They count. Im sorry you werent acknowledge on fathers day but HAPPY FATHERS DAY from me anyways. Maybe they got caught up or busy. Im sure They will never forget the wonderful things you have done for them.

[Tresbn00]

I think that, most times, step parents can count more than the real parents...and it definately seems to be your case with that many step-kids!  My blood-father was the embodiment of Archie Bunker with hatred for anything that wasn't a white, anglo-saxon, protestant, male which severely messed up my little sister.  My step-father stepped in, after my parent's divorced, and showed me what a good, hard-working, clean life was all about...with respect for all of God's creatures.  My step father received my one and only Happy Father's day wishes.

[mjdoug03]

Of course they count!  I'm sure you did a great job raising them!

[sarah_hollock]

Well i never had a step dad but if i did i sure hope he could count though!

[lgemini]

Yes, step parents do count.  I am so sorry that your family do not see you as an important person in their lives.   I would let them know how you felt on Father's Day.

[cubarican210]

In my book step-fathers do count on father's day. Especially, if they are ones like you that helped raise 5 kids that were not your own. That must have been tough but I commend you for doing that. Not too many men take it easy when it comes to raising kids that are not their own. If it makes you feel any better. Happy Belated Father's Day!!!!

[mtwano]

 

I almost cried to your forum... I have a step father... my mom and him were together for over 15 years now and just got married two years ago. He has other children, but they're not nearby, so whenever Father's day comes around, I try my best to make it His day.

He's a really great guy, but honestly, I still have a hard time calling him, "Dad," because he's not my dad, but he sure protects and treats me like his daughter.... EXCEPT for the disciplining part.... ha, ha, ha... I think I got away with things more than I would have with my real dad.

Anyhow... I know you were with your wife's children when they were young and at that moment, all they knew was you... Unfortunately, as children get older and go through maturity and even adulthood, they realize the truth... you're not their dad ~ but give them time and understanding and continue to love them as you always have when they were little.... they will soon learn to appreciate and acknowledge your caring heart as a father.

Happy Father's Day!

[alwaysinstyle]

my friend has a bettr step father than a real one!!!i believe nothing else matters

[Azanne07]

In my case my step parents dont count. but maybe if I have a better relationship and they didnt hurt me like they did maybe i would have a different opinion. I didnt wish my mother a happy mothers day or my fathers a happy fathers day.    maybe they just forgot.

[ninad33]

I say any man that is around ur child long enough and takes care
of them like there his own. well then that makes him a dadd. HAPPY BELATED FATHERS DAY!