My Fiance and I Don't Agree on Discipline

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I know this is a problem, but how do I get him and I on the same page.  I always think he's WAY too harsh and he thinks I'm a push over.  How can we meet in the middle.  I know if we do two different things if one of us is gone it's just going to confuse our little guy, which isn't fair to him.  Like the other day he wanted our little guy to throw away his crayons because he drew on the couch, and this was after he had like an hour and a half time out/nap and no video games for the day - I told him no, because then I'd have to buy more crayons someday and thought it was a silly idea.  Then yesterday he put him in his room for over a half an hour because he was whining.  I told him that anyone would agree that a half an hour was too long, and he said I was being a push over again and that he wasn't really even in a time out and that he was playing with toys - but our son likes to be around people and wanted to come out ---and last night, I gave my little guy 3 warnings when he was whining about not wanting to go to bed.  I said, "go pick out your books (he picks 3)"  --  he whined about it --- me, "okay, you only get two books tonight because you're not listening."  Still whined --  me, "okay, now you only get one now please go pick one out."  Still whined -- me, "okay, now you get no books because you wouldn't listen."  Then my fiance turns around and tells him to go get his books -- he clearly heard me just give my son 3 warnings before saying he didn't get any books, why would he undermind me?  I feel like he just wants to be in control, and this is not a good thing.

[gaylasue]

Hold your ground.  Consistant unreasonable punishment borders on a bigger problem.....