is it wrong to break up with someone because...

[ghelverson318]

is it wrong to break up with someone because they wont have sex with you?? my husband is deathy afraid to have anymore kids. we already have two. I have needs and the fact that he said he doesnt ever want to make love again, is really getting to me. i know he isnt lieing about it because its already been a LONG time since we've made love. is he really scared to have more kids? or is he just not attracted to me anymore? how should i talk to him about this? Im on birth control, but he has advised me to quit wasting my money on it because i didnt need it. i need help/advice.

[MrPKitty]

He needs to talk to someone about this.  If it's hurting you, it's hurting the marriage and who wants to live like that.

[ghelverson318]

yea, well, we arent married but we are engaged. and i know its not the end of the world because sex isnt the only thing in our relationship, but it still bothers me. i though all young guys couldnt resist sex, i thought it was in their nature. he said he didnt want to make love anymore, that if he was in the mood he would go off somewere private and releve himself, he doesnt even let me do anything to him, he wont let me touch him at all. im just so confused.

[ElleRich]

I would really talk to a professional counselor about this.  It is very difficult to get a clear picture and I truly believe that Fushioncash is not the place to get an answer to such a deep and personal issue.  The best to you--Elle

[Azanne07]

I have to agree that it sounds like he needs to go counseling, they might be deeper issues than just being afraid to have more kids.

[mrisha]

Although this is a very personal issue to discuss here, but here goes.  If you are on birth control and he still doesn't want sex, then its not you but him and possibly he is having sex elsewhere. I do think you should sit down and really talk to your husband.  If  he is telling you to stop wasting money by buying BC then he is serious about not ever having sex with you again.  He sounds selfish and very inconsiderate.

[Shutmeup3030150]

Its not wrong, I understand where your coming from completely. Although sex isnt the most important thing in a relationship, its DEFINITELY important.

[dreamyxo]

Well if he doesn't want anymore kids he can take steps to prevent that easily with a vasectomy.  Does he not want sex or he just doesn't want it with you?  Sorry to say but usually when a man stops having sex with the person he's with most likely it's because he's getting it somewhere else. 

[lynnc35]

I really hate this, but this is really not good, is your husband having an affair? Is something else wrong with him? suggest counseling, is he still attracted to the female sex, this is serious, it could be none of these things, but it definitely is something and you two got to seek professional help cuz this isn't right or healthy, it does not make sense.

[masked_brown_guy]

he might be gay, just saying. also have you tried being more sexy? one way you can test him is by having a threesome and if he has full sex with the other chick you'll know if he is over your goodies.

but hey if he doesnt want kids then tell him to wear a condom. that is a pretty weak argument for not banging your spouse.

[articx]

Yes it is. You want him to do something he doesn't want to do. Would you like it if your husband tried to make you do something you didn't want to do, whatever it may be?

Also, if a man refuses sex, it shouldn't automatically be assumed he's gay or having an affair.

[thetotalfool]

Sorry that you're having such trouble.  I think refusal of sex is a serious issue, and nobody should feel trapped in a relationship.  I agree that he should see a counselor.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Whoah, weird - a guy not wanting to have sex?!  I say - hmm - well I mean after I have this baby I am kind of scared to have another kid too, I only want 2, and I don't want to get pregnant again, and accidents happen but it's not going to stop me from having sex.  Suggest a condom plus birth control - I truely believe if you take your birth control every day around the same time no skips it works really really well.

[sflynt]

Whoah, weird - a guy not wanting to have sex?!

okay, this is strange. I mean, you're on birth control, and he still won't have sex.. I mean its just odd that a guy doesn't want it to begin with... I'd have to say he's found it elsewhere.. or maybe has a problem that he needs to have checked out. I don't mean to worry ya, but thats a big sign that he's seeing someone else imo. or maybe interested in the opposite sex. ?? I'd definitely talk to him. or to some kind of professional. I'm really sorry about your troubles, I hope it all works out and that it isn't as bad as we all think it is.

good luck.

[dreamongirl]

i don't think so. maybe you should talk to someone who talk's to couples!!