Single Mother six kids and counting.....

[mgarmstrong]

I agree that you are judging and making a lot of assumptions.  Just because you see a woman w/ a large amount of kid you think the worst.  She could be baby-sitting, they might be foster children, who really knows.  Just because you chose to not have children doesn't give you the right judge those of us who do have kids.  I decided to only have two myself, but that was my choice, not yours.

[loulizlee]

I must have missed something in the first post (and I am not trying to be mean), but how did your husband, who you said had passed away, turn and wink at you?

[loulizlee]

Correction to my comment:  I went back and re-read the post.  It was a "sad grin" - not a "wink."

[ghelverson318]

sometimes i see people in situations and walking around with children they really dont look like they should have had. some people have a lot of kids so they can claim them as dependants on their income tax. I am a young (21 year old) white female with two kids that are only 15 months apart. I am still dating their dad, but we arent married. I have every kind of child assistance possible and i have free health insurance with both of them. In my case i didnt grow up with the greatest of parents. I guess i never really had a family or anyone who took the time to care about me. that is until my man/baby addy came along. He had the same feelings about his family. All we both ever wanted was a family of our own, we wanted to have and be apart of a family, so we created our own. We dont have that much money and usually one of us is unemployeed, but we love our kids and give them all the love and support we can.

[Debj1951]

In reference to the above post. I do not, nor guess I ever will understand how people can 'want a family', yet won't make the marriage commitment if the father is in your lives. I am not putting you down & believe me I remember wanting a child just to have someone to love & love me back - unconditionally. I made the same what I feel are mistakes that you are making. I had a daughter out of wedlock. She has paid for it all of her life - he was never involved in her life. When your child aches, so do you. Of course he married, & they had a daughter. His wife was in total denial that he & I had a child. When he was on his death bed - my daughter then 37) went to see him on the request of her half sister. He was delerious, but when 'their' daughter told him my daughter was there, he was 'with it ' enough to look at her & say "sorry sorry". Then went back into sad situation of having no idea who he or anyone else was. Such a sad situation, but I think it helped my daughter to hear the apology. My daughter said she was so glad we never married since he became an alcoholic & her life would have been miserable. I was young & dumb & had never been taught right from wrong. Thank God when I did marry, I learned about morals etc. from his family.   

[mjdoug03]

It's sad but true.  I live in KY and they're trying to pass a law that says people on welfare have to pass a drug test.  I fully support this!

[sommap]

If you are going to be together and have kids, why wouldn't you get married? 

[EAngels]

I feel pity for you tantricia44. I'm not a single mom and with six kids but I have one. Having a child is one most wonderful moment happened to me. I can't express the happiness each day of my life; which money can't buy. It teaches me what love really means? Money can be found, but loving other in your small way is worthless.

[mattymatt79]

As we've seen in the past whenever someone challanges Tantricia to anything she never appears again.

That said how the heck do you know she was single? And also if she isn't what's wrong with a large family? Do you know everything about them? Of course you don't yet you come in here and continually judge people and reading the majority of your posts that's about all you know how to do is judge and ridicule someone who doesn't fall exactly inline with your thoughts and or beliefs.

[queenofnines]

Anyone who has more than 2-3 kids is doing a disservice to humanity.  There will always be consequences for humans multiplying like bacteria, but people get really pissy when you point this out.

[Normandie]

personally i think b/c is a great idea and i wish people would use it more.  But not everyone gets government assistance especially in this kind of economy.  im 16 and i have friends who cant get government assistance for watever reason but she does get help she also gets money from her daddy (cant think of the word for it now but when the farther isnt with the mother it comes out of his paycheck)

[marcar1008]

give me one....give me one.....give me one !!!!!  I only have an 11 yr old boy. My husband and I can afford another  child, don't need no government help.

[tuyetmai]

You're judging and making a lot of assumptions.  Why are you angry just at seeing a mother with her kids?  How do you know they were even her kids?  How do know that woman with the 6 kids is on public assistance?  Rich people shop at Walmart too.  How do you know she was single? Maybe her husband was sick in bed or something.  Do you think just because you chose not to have kids that you are better than other people who chose to have more than one?

Yeah I hate that I'm helping support lazy welfare queens but I don't assume every woman shopping by themselves with more than one kid is on welfare.  I also don't think welfare should be a permanent thing.  People fall on hard times and a safety net should help them out but there should be a limit.

I agree with you.  I do need that for my pass time with unemployment.  But now here I'm off with my life.  Just don't judge anyone by their appearant.

[Annella]

Nobody, but nobody has the right to dictate how many kids anyone can have.  Neither does the Government have the right to inflict a "ban" on children in any way, shape, or form.  When the Government starts telling us how many kids we can/cannot have, this is attacking our freedom of rights.  Like someone said earlier on in this thread, isn't the Government in our lives more than it should be as it is?

Neither it is up to anyone of us to judge the numerical acceptable quota of children our neighbor has or wants.  We are all different individuals with different hopes and dreams.  We live in America where we can have as many kids as we want.  If they can afford them or not is not the issue here.  It's the attack on the freedom of choice.  To muddy it with welfare benefits or whatever is not the bottom line. 

For those of you who believe their should be a ban on the amount of children born, are living in the wrong country.  Move to China or wherever they have such bans.

[queenofnines]

For those of you who believe their should be a ban on the amount of children born, are living in the wrong country.  Move to China or wherever they have such bans.

Yes, let's not have any limits on a country that is home to 1.5 BILLION people.  Because, you know, it's not like people starve or anything as a result.