to spank or not to spank?

[slowg8]

an affirmative "swat" on the butt was very common when i was growing up & honestly i think it's fine.  I have 2 boys & they are well deserving of the "swat" on occassion.  as long as parents keep their control & don't go overboard, i don't see an issue with it being "abuse".  now i do agree there are those who have absolutely no heart or compassion for other living beings...including but not limited to their own children.  i have witnessed with my own eyes the abuse that some parents bring forth for "child rearing".  THAT i do not agree with. 

[snowprincess09]

hey everyone! im 42 yrs old and raising my 3 yr old daughter by myself  well without her sorry no good daddy that is ........ i have to say the spanking deal is not really for me but i do have to spank my daughter when she doesnt listen or she is bad.I'll give you an example ........ at daycare one day ........ my girl's teacher comes up to me and tells me that angela was dragging her little friend around by his foot...........then she kicked him and she wouldnt listen to her teachers...... okay i know angela is only 3 yrs old and she wants to kick and drag her little friend around by the foot ......... here i am listening to the teacher and i was thinkin " why? why was angela doing this? what can i say to her to stop this kind of behavior?" after we left daycare~ i was diving home and talkin to angela. " i asked her" why did you drag andrew by the foot today?"  angela said" i dont know mama, are you happy?" she looked and waited . i wanted to laugh but i didnt i told her" no honey im not happy and you will be going to time when we get home" oh man i seen the tears come then. she hates being in time and she said loudly with a weepy voice" noooooooo mama i dont want to go to time out" cryin her tail off...." well honey when you do bad things i have to correct you and you will go in time out. and i love you angela and you need to start behaving like a little girl and be good at all times." by now she is ballin in the back seat and we are at the house. we get in the house and she goes to time out. thats one example but i do have a few more  lol  there are times i have to spank her and i dont like spanking her and it does not make me feel good at all to spank her! but sometimes time out, groundings. and taking her toys away, doesnt always work....so i switch but spankings are NOT my favorite  with her .but anways any suggestions?

[longleggedgiraffe]

My children are all teens now and are too old to spank. But I totally agree with spanking. Someone mentioned earlier in this thread that spanking is for the parents to make them feel better. I totally disagree. Maybe a few parents might feel that way but if they get joy out of spanking thier kids than they should step back and take a look at themselves. I always hated spanking my children. If you are upset enough with your children and discipline them with spanking, then you should take a break before you give it so you don't lose control. I was spanked as a child. My mom never spanked me out of anger. She always sent me to my room then came in to talk to me before she spanked me to ensure I knew what I had done wrong. I came out just fine. Everyone has a right to thier opinion and that is mine thank you!

[syncflame]

spanking it? ohhhh hitting your kid sorry i'm in the wrong section

[cyncity831]

Not neccessarily the right way but sometimes it might be the only way.  Beatings aren't acceptable but a spanking here and there might be what corrects the issue.