Would you be able to deal with a mate that partied and hung out every night

[chauney]

ive been with this guy for ten years and im still not use to the fact tht he hangs out he's a dj so he has to be at the club sometimes but even when he's not working he's there idk i would be tired of the whole scene

[jabkman]

i would go insane if my girl was away from me that long. I would beg her to stay and if that didn't work leave her if not in a binding relationship. A partier rarely stops partying

[samrhett2]

Maybe 15 years ago I would have, but today I realize that no possible good can come from putting up with allowing myself to be committed to someone who values a relationship that little.  Unfortunately, I learned that lesson the hard way.  I hope you will try to think of how you would react if your sister or good friend was being treated this way.  What would your advice be?

[ancmetro]

   No, not my life style!

[ninajay]

No, I don't think I would like that very much. It would be cool if my guy wanted to spend time with me sometimes, if not then I could find someone who does. 

[mommagoes]

at the current stage in my life, i would not even start a relationship with a person whose interests were that different from mine. when imet my husband we were both at the stage where we had done plenty of dating, partying, and exploring the world and were ready to start a commited relationship and be focused on each other. had he been a dj or a partier i wouldn't have given him the time of day

[thyme4fun1]

  I don't think I could even tolerate going out for one night with someone like that. Maybe 20 years ago I could but way to settled down now to even consider it.

[longleggedgiraffe]

That is for single people or young couples who dont have kids. Even when I was younger I didnt hang out at clubs. Its a waste of valuable time. No, I wouldnt deal with it. I would definately put a stop to it or move on.

[mrstina08]

I did put up with my boyfriend going to the club. He didnt go every night. Just on the weekend. The only reason I put up with that was because I was hanging with my friends to going to the clubs too. Today is my husband. Who wonderful is that. He has not been to the club in years neither have I.

[JessieKateRose]

I would not be able to deal with that at all. My boyfriend doesn't like to go hang out with his friends without me; he likes to take me everywhere.

But, you did know that he was a dj when you got with him, right? If it was something that he was doing or aspiring to do even before you got together, maybe that's something you just need to deal with. Maybe you could go out with your boyfriend when he goes out once in a while and that could help you feel better about it.

[diala84]

I'm glad me and my boyfriend see eye to eye on this area. Neither of us like to go to the club or hang out til the wee hours of the morning. If I was with someone else that was my opposite I do not think the relationship would work out.

[Lindaroof]

NO WAY! Life is too short to be involved with someone who isn't making you happy and. You can love someone and not be happy, but it will only continue to cause you heartache.
Please think more of yourself than to settle for that. I found out the hard way, and after 12 years I have married not only my lover, but my best friend.

[nmaltais]

everyone needs personal space

[yaayme]

Wow, ten years (and I'm assuming no ring!)! It's understandable that he has to be there for his job, but being there all the time off work would be a no-no for me...I understand that people need their own personal space and time away from each other, but if it's chronic...Uh un.

[tammypete]

No!   There comes a time when everybody has to grow up!