Would you give your cheating spouse a second chance?

[ladycasshmere]

If you caught your spouse cheating with someone else would you give them a second chance or would you kick them to the curb?

[lvstephanie]

I think it would depend on how far of a "cheat" it was... If it was at a night-club and they were dancing and flirting with another person, then I'd go by the old song addage "save the last dance for me". If on the other hand you caught them in bed together, then you know this must've been going on for awhile, and I'd be more tempted to get a divorce. I'd also like to figure out why my spouse was cheating in the first place... If it was more just a sexual fantasy, then I'd be a little more lenient than if it was because she felt there was something lacking in our relationship and she was trying to get it some other way.

[yaayme]

Well, I'm not married but I'll chime in anyway...Some people would like to believe that if a person cheats then that automatically means that they aren't happy in the marriage and that may be true in SOME cases. With that said, if I'm doing everything as a wife to make my husband happy and we have a great relationship and friendship, and he decided to cheat on me anyway...that would absolutely hurt like hell. I don't think I could forgive him to be honest. I can see if I was neglecting him and never tried to look nice for him and we fought all the time, and I stayed out all night with my girlfriends. Only then, would I forgive him if he cheated. Cause it would have been my fought. But that's just me.

[mypug04]

well, this is interesting. what if your spouse still calling and texting his/her ex?? are you going smack him/her down?

[gesus]

nope out the door with the papers , people say yeah second chances but the action is still there and cannot be erased and it gets all weird when the storm is over so , to me no thanks

[ranger14892]

nope. theres too many women that would give me their heart, for me to keep a cheater around.

[lher0277]

depends on the person, do they do it all the time or really a 1 time thing,i wouldnt give in right away though, they would hv to prove they really wanted to b with me, and they will know i wouldnt take them back if it happens again and would hv to earn my trust back.

[SarahPunk]

Hell no! Once a cheater always a cheater! If my man would rather have someone else then he can have her and I'll find somebody better.

[PMZ908]

i guess, but it really depends on the person and how long u been with each other

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I've never been in that situation, so it's hard to say, and I'm sure the situation is different in every case - I honestly don't think my fiance would cheat on me, we trust each other - he is old fashion, which is one of the reason's I love him.

[Elizabethar]

Sorry but no way!!!

[smithjcsdfw]

As a simple rule of thumb that I try to follow is that what takes place between consenting adults is the business of consenting adults.  So in a nut shell it would all depend on the parties involved and what they feel motivated  to do about this situation.  But I would strongly recomend that a channel of communication be opened and that the situation be resolved to the satisfaction of all parties involved or else there are gonna be some not so desirable results.

[sarah_hollock]

No Way i am a Sagi and if you knew what i mean i dont even deal with that stuff your out see ya.....

[2getherwewin]

I think a second chance is needed.  Forgive others as you forgive yourself.

[mrisha]

Nope, Never did.  If you cheat one time how many times had the man cheated before being caught.  When someone cheats the trust will never be there like it was before.  Get rid of the problem.