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billermarie

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how to move on
« on: December 22, 2010, 10:18:14 am »
i lost a very friend i call him papa he was one to me he passed away march 12 2010 i taken care of him 3 yrs he was very special to me and this day i cant get over him or stop thinking him it do upset i cried all the time so how do u moved on  :crybaby2: :angry7:

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2010, 12:00:08 pm »
i lost a very friend i call him papa he was one to me he passed away march 12 2010 i taken care of him 3 yrs he was very special to me and this day i cant get over him or stop thinking him it do upset i cried all the time so how do u moved on  :crybaby2: :angry7:
The best way is to throw yourself into service for someone else that needs you just as much as Papa did.

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2010, 12:29:22 pm »
It is hard to move forward when you love and lose someone.  I lost my mother 4 years ago this past September and not a day go by that I don't think of her or even dream about her.  She was my best friend and I am still grieving.  But I do know you have to move on and get involve with other things that will help you get to the acceptance part.  I haven't gotten there so far.  Good luck.
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Re: how to move on
« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2010, 12:54:24 pm »
The person I lost was the man I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. Non judgemental and loved all of me. If I did something extra like rub his back or feet he would thank me for serving him. I guess he had never had a woman be so kind to him to say that to me. He died unexpectant and suddenly. I think he came into my life for a big reason and I wont allow his memory to be forgotten. I never knew a man my whole life as kind as he was to me. Yet he stood his ground well with anyone else. He fought for human rights. He wanted to bring Angels to earth to help us. I wish to do that for him. Moving on but not finding anything like him.  :angel12: :angel12: :angel12:

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2010, 01:05:28 pm »
I think it helps to take up a project in the memory of the person.  It could be a hobby, charity, anything.

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #5 on: December 22, 2010, 05:10:18 pm »
remember all the wonderful things and know that not a day will pass that you don't remember him.
remember the joys that he brought to all the people around him while he was living.

It's not easy to lose an important person that you love.

Hang in there.

Grief counseling or so sort of group may help you also meet others dealing with similar situations

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #6 on: December 28, 2010, 10:46:48 pm »
That is a good question!! Something I would like to know too! I lost my nephew in 2008 and sister in 2009! Miss them dearly!! I think I just keep my mind off them, think about other things! And when I think about them, I think of all the good times!!

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #7 on: December 29, 2010, 10:10:52 pm »
thank you for all ur help but this is very hard for me to do and deal with i cant stoping thinking about him and trying to move on but all the member will be with me thank again

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #8 on: December 29, 2010, 10:36:09 pm »
Sorry to hear that!!! I hope you can move on soon and try and think of happy times and im sure you have other great things in your life to help ease your pain.

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #9 on: December 31, 2010, 06:48:29 pm »
I feel your pain. I lost my Grammy on April 15, 2006 and I still cry over it sometimes. She was like a second Mom to me and I still miss her everyday. But, as time goes on, it DOES get easier. You just have to hold you head high and know that even though they are not physically with you, they're still living in your heart (as cheesy as it sounds). Remember the happy times you shared with them and believe that, one day, you will be with them again.

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« Reply #10 on: December 31, 2010, 09:41:28 pm »
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Re: how to move on
« Reply #11 on: January 01, 2011, 11:06:10 am »
i lost a very friend i call him papa he was one to me he passed away march 12 2010 i taken care of him 3 yrs he was very special to me and this day i cant get over him or stop thinking him it do upset i cried all the time so how do u moved on  :crybaby2: :angry7:
The best way is to throw yourself into service for someone else that needs you just as much as Papa did.


i agree with old buddy here.

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« Reply #12 on: January 01, 2011, 11:09:46 am »
The person I lost was the man I was meant to spend the rest of my life with. Non judgemental and loved all of me. If I did something extra like rub his back or feet he would thank me for serving him. I guess he had never had a woman be so kind to him to say that to me. He died unexpectant and suddenly. I think he came into my life for a big reason and I wont allow his memory to be forgotten. I never knew a man my whole life as kind as he was to me. Yet he stood his ground well with anyone else. He fought for human rights. He wanted to bring Angels to earth to help us. I wish to do that for him. Moving on but not finding anything like him.  :angel12: :angel12: :angel12:

 i wish my man paid more attention to me. not physically but mentally and verbally. he complains alot about how he feels. he annoys the hell out of my parents coz he complains too much and isnt very social.

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #13 on: January 01, 2011, 11:20:09 am »
i still think about my late grandparents. i was closer to my grandma but i miss grandpa too. he was a funny man. they were like opposites but they say opposites attract. i guess so coz they never divorse as far as i know and they were still together when grandpa went first. we thought grandma had more then 2 more yrs to live after grandpa passed but that wasnt the case. she went suddenly in her kitchen. coroner said it had to be a fast heart attack or a blood clot to the brain coz she just layed down and still had her kitchen utensils in her hand laying right next to the stove as if she was taking a nap.

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Re: how to move on
« Reply #14 on: January 01, 2011, 11:48:52 am »
and love: i dont think u ever get over ur very first serious love. it's bad. i hate it.  :bs:

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