WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

[Boise40]

Who cares? Does your spouse work alot? Does he constantly have paying the bills and making ends meet on his mind?  Does he ever get time to himself, to THINK and clear his head about things like your birthday he needs to remember, and finally-do you have kids?!?

This is my theory, If I can't even remember how old I was on my last birthday, then why should I hold him responsible for remembering  my birthday?

 Birthdays are a personal thing, you are celebrating the day you were born, which when you think about it-YOUR SPOUSE WASN'T THERE WHEN YOU WERE BORN!!! So why hold him to it so harshly? I think husbands really don't get enough credit on this topic. Why get mad at someone you love because that day slipped their mind??? It was just another day when he met you, as is his birthday was just another day-to you! Don't get me wrong, birthdays are important, but so many other factors where involved after you where born to get you by his side today, and  vice versa, so why not be thankfull for that?


I mean, what are you gonna do?  I  actually think its funny! We get going so fast in our daily lives that things slip our minds. 

It's like:

"oh yea!!! there was something else important I had to do today...But what is it??"
                               ".....HMMMMMM...."
                                (light goes out!!!)

I fall on the floor laughing when my husband doesn't remember things, because he is always on point all of the time! The point is that we are both laughing about it together!!!

 I think I would let him have that one, and chuckle along side him about both of our forgetfull brains!!!


But the fact that you are with the one you love NOW, and you are happy, totally outweighs the whole "pomp and circumstance" of remembering birthdays.

We are all human, and we forget from time to time-which is okay!  That doesn't mean he doesn't care about you any less than he does, unless there are some other underlying issues going on here between the two of you! I guess I am trying to say, Give him a Break!

I think I would be more upset at my Mom for forgeting my birthday, but it doesn't apply to me......

I am adopted-HA!!!!!

It applies to me because I still remember that my mom skipped my 15th birthday. It can be very hurtful when someone skips your birthday or forgets it. Now, I don't think I would get upset if someone skips or forgets my birthday since I'm in my 20's. I would just be more disappointed than anything else. Anyways, we should all learn to forgive and forget. Life is too short to have negative attitude or feelings about someone.

[sempermade]

I would be super upset! & I would make it a point to discuss what the hell their mind went!?
& Have them spoil you!

[SarahPunk]

I don't allow him the chance to forget, the disappointment of that would be heartbreaking. I ask him a little over a week before my birthday what we should do for it so we can make plans.

[Storm61115]

remind him..a couple days before.. a day before.. dont say it on ur birthday just say i get cake and icecream today lol.. if he's smart enough..he will get what ur saying lol.

[tzs]

WOW! Everyone's reactions to this thread suprises me! Life's to short to dwell on things like that, unless its an essential part of your personality that always needs recognition or praise.

[jusu]

He has. We're divorced now...not because he forgot my B-Day but because he is just a jerk. Anyway, I just blew it off, didn't really care. The next  day I would say something like," Wow, I don't really feel a year older" He never got it.

[sommap]

Since mine is New Year's Eve, it is almost impossible to forget.  If he did, he would be somewhat embarrassed as everybody gives me cards, when we are out. 

[mh874892]

That's awesome that he was planning the suprise all along!

But, I leave hints all the time as to what I want or what I want to do so my family and friends will not forget my birthday. It is not a huge deal to me, but it is nice to know that people care. I think any sense of appreciation is what makes the day special.

[Amberjay427]

I would probably be very disappointed but then make a joke by buying myself his favorite birthday cake, sing happy birthday to myself right in front of him and then tell him, "It's my birthday and I'm not sharing  " lol life's too short to sweat the little stuff.

[obsccure]

I dont have a spouse,.. so I wouldn't know but I do know one thing... I would feel he already forgot about me and I wasn't important enough for him to just remember my birthday 

[Beverly10]

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR SPOUSE FORGETS YOUR BIRTHDAY?

Consider the source! He's a guy, they have selective memories!

[Ashleyb0322]

I would not make a big deal about it, because i have one every year, and just being with him is all that matters.