Can you love a baby .....

[bozenabozena]

Friend of my was rape and she's having his baby. My question is can you love that baby and how can you look at that baby for rest of your life and think what hapend on that day.She have two other children. My opinion to abortion i won't be able to live with my self if i had one but having a baby thrue rape i think is even worse....

[amyrouse]

I personally could not see myself having a child conceived through rape.  Then, when that child is older and asks who is the father, to have to tell that child that her genetic father raped her mother that raised her?  What about all the kids who are adopted who spend so much of their lives wondering who their parents are?  Then, after some searching to find out that their mother was raped and their father was a rapist? It doesn't seem to me like the right thing to do for that child.

Every person is different, though. I've known different people who became pregnant as a result of rape.  Some had abortions, but one stands out in my mind...the one who decided to have the child and then miscarried. 

[SarahPunk]

Babies are always good. How it came to be doesn't matter. If when you look at a newborn baby and hate he or she, then something is wrong with you. It's not the baby's fault. I can't understand how traumatic that kind of experience is, and I'm certainly not ignoring that fact. But, babies are amazing little people, they are innocent no matter what. I must say that I am completely against abortion, I believe it is murder. However, if you have problems dealing with how the baby got there and you start blaming the child, then you can always put he/she up for adoption. There are always people out there who want children and can't have them.

[mattymatt79]

What I want to know is the people who opted for abortion, was putting up for adoption ever considered? Obviously, I'm a male and I've seen how bad my wife's pregnancy was and how miserable she was with not morning sickness; the all-day sickness. And I know this could be a hard decision, but I just wonder if it was ever brought up or thought of.

[trujillo33]

This is a tough question...I would think I would keep it but I wouldnt want to be reminded of the rape. I know its not the baby's fault. Really don't know what I would do!!

[Valerie1979]

I know someone that had her son after rape.... it's mentally VERY hard for her, almost a constant reminder of the horrible rape

[markncandace]

I definitely don't believe in abortion.  Babies already have a heart beat at like seven or eight weeks.  So when you have an abortion you are basically stopping a beating heart that is full of life.   Personally if I was raped and became pregnant I would have the baby and give it up for adoption.  That way the baby wouldn't have to die, but I wouldn't have a daily reminder of what had happened. 

[Azanne07]

I do not think I could have the baby but I dont think I could have the abortion either. Maybe give the baby up for adoption but then again its not the babies fault and when the time came, it might be possible to love once you see the baby for the first time.

[Graeth]

I say remove it from the genepool. It will just pass on bad traits.

[jnjmolly]

I would be able to love them because they are 100% innocent and it is still a part of me no matter what so hopefully it would take after the mother and she can teach the baby right from wrong!

[klkwid]

Maybe she can look at the baby every day and be reminded of how strong she is for overcoming that difficult and unfair part of her life. 

[ancmetro]

        It is 'your baby' and all babies need love. Maybe he is not the real father! Love yourself and your babies because 'babies come from good fathers'.

[Shahrukhlover]

I'm sure it's possible to love a baby even under those circumstances.  She could if she wanted to.  I personally would've had an abortion.

[dreamyxo]

I wouldn't have had the baby in that situation I would have had an abortion.  The baby may be innocent but I wouldn't want a constant reminder of being raped especially if the baby came out looking like the rapist.

[Shutmeup3030150]

Thats such a tough question...I have given this A LOT of thought (before this) and I still can't answer that question. I just honestly don't know...I guess it depends on the situation...If it was someone you knew for awhile, and HAD trusted before that, then maybe. If it was a complete stranger, most likely not...But i'm not one to hate a child...So I honestly don't know...