I am so sorry for your loss. I know the pain and the things people say, thinking they are making it better. (Like - at least the baby never was born so you did not get to know it) My youngest is now 11 and she was born with spina bifida. Before we had her, we had 3 miscarriages. One of them was twins, one was growing fine, the other stopped growing and had no heartbeat. The doctor kept saying that maybe the one that didn't make it would "slip" and the other baby would be ok, but that was not the case, we lost them both. I don't care what anyone says, once you discover you are pregnant, that baby is a part of you whether it makes it the full 9 months or not. Unless you have been through it, you will never know the hurt and heartache that comes with a miscarriage.