Ever been cheated on?

[StaciLyn1988]

Well I was cheated on I love this guy with all my heart we have 2 kids together. But can anyone come back from this? He says it was only once and will never happen again and he didnt mean for it to happen but then you have to think what was he doing going to meet this chick and why did he kiss her why not stop it if he loves me so much. Why would she bring a condum if they wernt going to have sex I dont bring them when i am going to meet anyone i dont who they are even if i was plaining on having sex with them. He said they were just friends so I made up that she sent me a message that they had sex and he said yes we did so what? SO WHAT? I wanted to lets say get rid of him lol... grr so what do you do when someone cheats on you?

[TaintedLust]

Well I was cheated on I love this guy with all my heart we have 2 kids together. But can anyone come back from this? He says it was only once and will never happen again and he didnt mean for it to happen but then you have to think what was he doing going to meet this chick and why did he kiss her why not stop it if he loves me so much. Why would she bring a condum if they wernt going to have sex I dont bring them when i am going to meet anyone i dont who they are even if i was plaining on having sex with them. He said they were just friends so I made up that she sent me a message that they had sex and he said yes we did so what? SO WHAT? I wanted to lets say get rid of him lol... grr so what do you do when someone cheats on you?

I've been cheated on by all of my ex's. I've dated 8 guys and am currently with #8  and I know he would never cheat. 99% of men go out looking for someone to have sex with even though they are either married or are dating someone. Most guys don't think they will get caught nor really care if they do. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I would never stay with a guy if he cheated, especially with children involved. You do your child no good by sticking around.  You pretty much teach them it's ok to cheat. My opinion on cheating is simple.. If you want to cheat that badly, end the relationship you're in.

[Storm61115]

well u can dump him if u want.. sometimes it'll haunt u forever though. i'm still holding a grudge my ex for that and i dont want him back. he wasnt good for me. i dont know if thats the case here but do what u feel is right. no one can tell u what to do.

[dreamyxo]

If I've been cheated on I don't know it.  I know one thing I wouldn't want to have sex with the person who cheated on me ever again.

[karenkpc]

absolutely...I had an ex cheat.  it was a nightmare.  I had to make the conscious decision with a lot of work in the process to learn how to trust in the next relationship.  I did end the cheater relationship.  if someone cheats once, chances are they will repeat it.  I learned as well that someone cheating on me is not necessarily a reflection on me or who I am.  it is indeed a decision they make.

[livluvnlaugh]

Yeah of coarse - I think everyone has either they don't know it or can't admit to it.  Most guys view sex totally different - they're not making love they're just having sex it didn't mean anything - they just expect you to understand - and they even lie about it.  They think its ok for them but if it were you, you would be a sleezy *bleep*..They think they make the rules and don't really think about how it makes you feel.  The worst of it is that other girl probably thinks she got one over on you, which even makes it worse, its like a game.  Can you ever really trust anyone except yourself?

[eaustin92]

I was cheated on by my was to be "fiancee". I was with her for 3 years and she did that to me. It literally almost killed me 

[mynevaeh]

Well I was cheated on I love this guy with all my heart we have 2 kids together. But can anyone come back from this? He says it was only once and will never happen again and he didnt mean for it to happen but then you have to think what was he doing going to meet this chick and why did he kiss her why not stop it if he loves me so much. Why would she bring a condum if they wernt going to have sex I dont bring them when i am going to meet anyone i dont who they are even if i was plaining on having sex with them. He said they were just friends so I made up that she sent me a message that they had sex and he said yes we did so what? SO WHAT? I wanted to lets say get rid of him lol... grr so what do you do when someone cheats on you?

Well I just get even!  I know two wrongs don't make a right, but considering what I wanted to do to him.  That was the best thing legally to do..lol.. :angry7:I was engaged to this guy when I was cheated on and to this day he denies it even after being caught.  Anyway, so I led him to believe that I wanted to work through it.  Then, I had him meet me at my house at the same time that my date showed up.  Just like that I dissed him and never looked back.  So, now he's the one suffering because he realized what he lost.  And he still tells my family that he loves me to death and that he should have been the father of my child.
I do not regret my decision, I was so better off without him!

[lynnc35]

Ha, Which time? Oh well, that is a thing of the past, we should learn to move on, and not let our past haunt us, if someone cheats, it is probably best to move on, once a cheater, probably always one, unless they get saved, then if they are true to God, they will stop what they are doing.

[GoGoKokiGo]

I have cyber-wise, which I think is just as bad (some may think otherwise). Oh I was pissed off to the highest pisstivities. Seriously. Someone was about to catch a punch to the throat. BUT I took the silent treatment "act happy in front of people and the minute we're alone together completely ignore them" route. May not work for some but I'm so good at it it's ridiculous and from what I've seen it's torture on the victim. Especially cause they'll think "oh look she's happy and over it" just till company walks away then it's back cold shoulder silence. That aside.

I guess I was lucky that it was only online, because I really love that person. You yourself can decide if your love for the person is bigger then their mistake. Even though my weapon of choice is the silent treatment till I'm ready to talk, I would advise talking it out. Don't let them take over the conversations with the whole "I'm sorry it will never happen again blah blah blah" and all that. They got a chance to do what they wanted, now it's your turn to let them know how you feel about it. We would go to his family's house and if the bad feeling about what he did came up. I'd talk to him about it right then and there. Cause after what he did, I just didn't give a damn. I did what I wanted when I wanted after all that happened. He did make the changes I asked for so soon I got over it...although thinking about it now makes me want to go boil some hot water and throw it on his sleeping face.   But I love him too much.

If you find that you can't forgive that person (and it doesn't have a be a quick forgive, it can be as much time as it takes for you to feel better or at the very least content.) then it would be a good idea to let them go. Because if you can't let it go, it is going to be on your mind ALL DAY LONG! And night as well. That's just more torture on yourself that you don't need or deserve.

[moonangel]

my fiancee and i had a big blowout 6 months before our planned wedding.  2days later we made up. 4 months later the girl whose shoulder he cried on let me know she was pregnant with his child...Iwalked away....They got married on our wedding date..I moved on and am married to a wonderful man.  about 5 years ago i heard they got divorced.

[lighthouse68]

Yep. My oldest was 3 months old when my husband at that time told me he was seeing someone else. Nice, huh?

[sands01]

All of my exes cheated on me. My husband is the only one who hasn't and I hope he never will.

[christopherlp9]

ive been cheated on one,worst time of my life but it behinde me and im married know.

[aznjonoh]

Not that i know of, I hope not in the future