MOURNING!

[hensleyll]

The first most important step to mourning ,is you must first accept your loss and then embrace the greif before you may begin healing!

[cece12]

This is how I got through the grieving process-hope it helps someone

The Colors of Morning…Mourning Colors

The grey falls down.
The grey has fallen.
Covering the waiting earth.
Clothing the naked sky.
This day is too thick, this day too heavy.
A winter like sky welcomes idle brains back from summer
It clings to the laughter of children, hangs on to their frustration
Summer echoes through my veil of fallen grey.
Through open windows
Across open wounds.
This pain too fresh
Crisp, white, accompanied by the snap of just out of the plastic.
The grey follows them in the pre dawn sky
Their shadows silhouetted against a deep blue of promises, too expensive to keep.
They take my mourning soul with them.
Away from the falling grey
Trying to put distance between my soul in this morning of grey
And the heavy weight of unspoken pulling
Dragging across a body worn.
Snap.
Thud.
The pain can be heard in the silence of this too early morning.
Through the falling grey.
Behind the veil of my mourning soul.
This heavy day soon became something else entirely.
Another moment trapped in a piece of memory.
Evening’s underskirt was still loosely trailing
Revealing the red and gold hints of day
The sky yawned then stretched, a touch of blue peered shyly around the corner
A gust of ordinary cooled the sizzle of St. Louis summer
Soon the quiet will be broken and I will feel
Your whisper through my soul, wonder briefly if
Maybe I’ll see you again, through the crisp clear day breaking across the sky.
See your smile again in the warm breeze, maybe.
Feel your arms around me chasing away fear and doubts, again, maybe.
Yet not now in this fallen grey.
That morning now etched in my heart, I’m leaving.
Following my heart again through a distance not measured in miles
A time standing still in that now-leaving
Stopping at that moment when we said hello
Your smile waiting to fill my empty space
This morning that space is only grey.
Falling
Covering the waiting earth
Wrapping my soul in its thickness
I fall into the grey
Become a fragment of the heaviness
Too full to move in this morning of grey
My mourning soul waits
Wonders, dares to hope?
No.
Too fragile, too quick
The strands float loosely, in time with a cool breeze
Then disappear through the fallen grey.
The day became too much, too crowded 
My movements slowed
Energy drained, it dripped
Dropped to the dry earth.
Then you poured through me
Leaving traces of grey.

[sands01]

I feel like I will never be done mourning. It has been 3 1/2 years since my mother was killed. I miss her everyday and cry whenever I think of her. She was only 47 so I thought she would be around for a long time. I especially think of her when I hear the song "Hurt" by Christina Aguilera. 

[brendy1990]

I feel like I will never be done mourning. It has been 3 1/2 years since my mother was killed. I miss her everyday and cry whenever I think of her. She was only 47 so I thought she would be around for a long time. I especially think of her when I hear the song "Hurt" by Christina Aguilera. 

i now exactly what you mean ,my mom has been gone now for about 5 years and there are times when i just loose it, because you never really get over it you just learn to live with the loss..

[luvh8tragedy87]

It'll be 10 years next month that I lost my friend. Can't believe it's been that long already. Still doesn't seem right that she died the way she did.

[Valerie1979]

my brother died about 2 1/2 years ago at the age of 30 in his sleep --- not a day goes by that something doesn't remind me of him.... he passed when my son was 3 weeks old and I really wish he had his Uncle.

[Storm61115]

yeah, everyone dies..just not when u want them to. god wants them at a certain time..theres nothing u can do when he decides he wants them or u. i didnt want my dad's parents to go but grandpa went first from battling lung cancer and grandma passed 2 years later on the same day --yes same day different year--of a heart attack inside her own home, in her kitchen while everyone was away and she was all alone. i know u should leave elderly people all alone in their home coz something like this could happen and no one would know until they came home. yes, thats exactly how it went coz my uncle had to go to work. he was living there coz he was in the middle of a divorse and his wife took the their house. when he got home, he found grandma dead on the kitchen floor. it was very unexpected and everyone was in shock.

[mc1962]

I lost a brother-in-law to a drunk driver om Feb. 8th, 1980 and I am still mourning the loss.

[sands01]

I lost a brother-in-law to a drunk driver om Feb. 8th, 1980 and I am still mourning the loss.

My mom was killed by a drunk driver too. His blood alcohol was almost 3.0. I don't remember the exact anymore, but I know it was close to that.

[tzs]

I lost a brother-in-law to a drunk driver om Feb. 8th, 1980 and I am still mourning the loss.

My mom was killed by a drunk driver too. His blood alcohol was almost 3.0. I don't remember the exact anymore, but I know it was close to that.

Driving drunk just doesn't make sense, and I think its so disrespectful for people to not take into account the families and children that they might hurt if they get behind that wheel, it hurts, and I'm so sorry for your losses.....

[sands01]

I lost a brother-in-law to a drunk driver om Feb. 8th, 1980 and I am still mourning the loss.

My mom was killed by a drunk driver too. His blood alcohol was almost 3.0. I don't remember the exact anymore, but I know it was close to that.

Driving drunk just doesn't make sense, and I think its so disrespectful for people to not take into account the families and children that they might hurt if they get behind that wheel, it hurts, and I'm so sorry for your losses.....

Thank you. The whole situation was bad. The man had just gotten out of jail. The accident happened about 8 pm and he had been drinking since 8 am. The part I find the most horrible is his brother was going to take his keys away but didn't. It makes me so mad how someone can stop it but choose not to.