You have best freind dyeing,they dont want you to say anything should you?

[hensleyll]

I have been struggling with this question for years my community is small and close knitt have noone personal to talk to they will figure it out what would you do?

[snipk9]

Yes you should.

[AmyTrivitt]

I would respect the wishes of this friend. My step mother in law is dying of cancer and is in the final stage she is reclusive to her own home and does not like talking about this any longer. I talk with my husband and children but I respect her wishes. Although you as a friend are going through this also it is your friends choice not to let people know. Respect that as a friend.

[lynnc35]

You shoud take this opportunity to make sure your friend knows where he or she is going. When asked if a person is saved, they will give you a yes. There is no I don't know to it. If they say this, then it is something you should talk about and they should know this place is not their home, and they will be moving on to their home if they choose Jesus Christ as their Savior. Jesus is the only way to eternal life. Jesus is the only one who can forgive us our sins. Please I urge you to have this talk with them. Since they know it is not too late. If they are saved, then this is an excellent opportunity to talk about some of their wishes, etc., and continue discussing where they will be going, The Holy Kingdom.

[dreamyxo]

You mean they don't want to talk about them dying?  I can understand that.  Who wants to talk about it 24/7?  We are all dying some just sooner than others.  While they are here just spend time with them doing the things you normally do together if they are physically/mentally able.  Talk about if only if they bring it up.

[cloudsoup]

i wouldn't. what if you were the one dying and didn't
want anyone to know, except this one friend who you
trusted and who you thought wouldn't treat you any
different because of it. who wouldn't feel sorry for you
all the time?

...and then to have that friend tell someone, and
inevitably start a chain reaction. you'd be the center of
attention and reminded of it every day by someone
(who wouldn't mean to) but still.

you're lucky enough to be that one friend, so live up to it  

[hensleyll]

Thanks i guess i just needed to hear that out loud.Freind holding her on right now but it not over by a long shot!I have every intention of living up to this trust.

[debraleesparks]

 :sad1:I lost my ENTIRE family.. We have a heart condition, called 'sudden cardiac arrest syndrome'.. We just drop dead. My sister died in the Library while checking out books.. My brother died, handing a lady a "Readers Digest" magazine, "postman", and so on, and so on. I don't know if I'll live to see tomorrow.. I only regret not saying "I love you", to my family before they died.

[jongarton]

We all have struggles we deal with EVERYDAY! I hope and pray for you and your friend! In this day and age of cell phones and "free long distance" You could call someone in the nearest "BIG CITY" like a counselor and remain anonymous and still be friends with this person without saying the whole WHO, WHEN and WHERE! or you could call upon a church in said neighboring town and ask for prayers for your whole community! Not just one person!

[ptfunds]

Glad to hear you are going to honor your friend's wishes, HensleyII. When a friend asks you to keep a confidence and you agree, it is a commitment you have made.  It is a contract based on the trust in your friendship. To break that contract would dishonor you, your friend and your friendship. My heart goes out to you in being the friend in the support position.  I'm sure since you wrote this topic you are someone who is trying to be the best friend possible - you are a good friend.

[hensleyll]

Thank you very much we are 3,000 miles apart but she tells me i`m her main support because i dont baby her like immediate family it is very hard as i just recently watched another good freind dye a year ago and made myself keep distance,determined not to do it again.So i gain my strength from strangers