Lol judging from what you posted I'd say you've dealt with someone who wants you to lie to them...so lie to them.
Why should I lie to them? Why would I want to let my girlfriend to wear an outfit I don't like, a perfume I think stinks, etc? I mean, if she likes it enough to do it anyway because SHE really likes it, that's fine. However, I certainly wouldn't want her to always wear that perfume because she thinks I like it.
i don't have to ask, he usually takes it upon himself to
tell me i look beautiful no matter what i'm wearing 
Either he's lying to you, or you already have a good sense of what looks good on you.
It's even worse when they get mad at you if they find out you lied. Seriously, there is no way you can win in that situation.
EXACTLY. By lying and saying we like something that we don't, it only sets you up for a bad situation when the truth comes out later. "I thought you LIKED that dress!
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In general, it's hard to be honest without hurting a woman's feeling. The best a man can do is be genuin and kind about it. Saying a woman looks fat in a dress can be eloquently put in many ways. Men, you know how to sugar coat things when you want to get with a woman: you can think of kind ways to tell her not to wear the dress.
As for the cutting hair issue. Well, I say if you want your hair cut a certain way, you need to go to the barber. Quit trying to get your free hair cut at home and ask for a profession job. Plus, it's not customer service if its free. Everyone have a certain specialty, they cut the best hair cut they know how. Your job is to find the person that CAN cut your hair the way you want.
I should have mentioned sugarcoating in my first post. I certainly wouldn't tell a woman "That dress makes you look fat." I'd be more likely to say something like "That dress doesn't show off your curves as well as that other one."
Also, I would NEVER get my hair styled at home. However, I do cut it myself because all I ever do is a simple buzz cut. That's easy enough to do yourself. My issue with the hair actually happened with my dad though. My mom would always get her hair permed a certain way, and the rest of the family thought it looked terrible. She looked like a poodle. Yet, we kept telling her it looked good to not hurt her feelings. But eventually, the truth came out, and it hurt even worse.
I don't have to deal with any of this cause I told my husband straight up....If something doesn't make me look good or if I look really good in something but want to wear something else TELL ME so I don't end up looking a fool. He tells me if my make up looks weird or anything of that sort and I'm totally proud of that fact that I can take it and he can tell me without me getting mad. If he doesn't tell me before I leave the house....who will? He always tell me how beautiful I am but I need to know if I have makeup running down my face.
EXACTLY! Thank you!
Have any of you ever been out somewhere, and you see a woman with an absolutely HIDEOUS outfit, or just a terribly done makeup job, or a hairstyle that makes you go "WTF?" ? If so, odds are, there's a boyfriend behind that woman telling her she looks good. Now, there's certainly the possibility that they just have different tastes, but you should really stop to consider the possibility that he's lying to her and telling her that he likes that style.
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Topic: Attention women! (Read 8044 times)
November 18, 2009, 06:00:13 am
