Silent Treatment

[cece12]

First off, I've been married 26  yrs, no applause please! We're going through a rough patch right now, between our finances and our house, there's not a lot of room to breathe. So guess what? He's giving me the silent treatment! Both of us are approaching 50 and he's playing grade school games! Cool. I could get pissed, demand conversation, likeI use to...I wonder which one of us has grown up?

[creativeone1988]

I would ask him what is bothering him (in a caring voice of course! haha even if you already know what it is). Typically with people that play these childhood games need to just sit there and vent (tantrum as referred to when children do it! lol) and just listen and comfort him and i am sure it will help solve the problem. Then after when he is feeling better proceed to tell him that you care and you need to act as a team through these rough times and that such actions only worsen the situation. Good luck!!!

- student of Psychology -

[mrisha]

Ok, so why is he giving you the silent treatment?  What happened other than the issues you quoted?  26 years of marriage is a great commitment which is commendable.  Is he depressed?  I think you both need to open up some kind of communication to solve this issue because if you don't you will lose each other.  Good luck. 

[home_teachin]

Let him sulk until he's done. Go about your life like you don't notice it. It is like a kid and once he sees he can't get to you , he'll likely quit. As long as he has no input, you can make the important decisions. In the meantime, enjoy the peace and quiet. My mom's husband tries that once in awhile, and she just says " silence gives consent" when any question comes up.