Relationships?

[cateyes1]

Why is it when 2 people meet and fall in love and at the beginning you cant wait to see that person, BUT, as time goes on, maybe in a year or so, all the excitement kind of just fizzles? is it just ME?

[bretay]

not sure,...i have been married 44 years yesterday...i was 15 and he was 21..we've 2 beautiful daughters and 2 beautiful granddaughters...

[potluck6]

Think that's very normal being in love is like a drug high.  After you know someone for awhile you Still are in love but can be different. If you enjoy being with the person and have fun then its all good.

[ancmetro]

     I think you are talking about infatuation.
     Yes, there is a different between falling in love
     and having a personal crush on someone.

[Nancy5]

I think that’s normal.  You fall in love and marry.  Then instead of seeing the person even daily you are now living 24/7 with that person.  Learning things you never knew before.  Also seeing them every day the excitement sort of dies.  You are still in love, but the anxious, excited feeling when you first see them goes away. 

[minioncookies]

Its the wait. its the distance & your patience slowly goes away. So desire to talk to the person kinda dies with time

[dreamyxo]

The newness fades away pretty quick.  Just the way it is.

[sipingyu]

I agree that it's pretty normal once the excitement fades away and other qualities like patience and acceptance need to kick in that's more than infatuation in the beginning if the relationship can be sustained over longer period of time. I am learning myself as my husband and I got married about 14 years ago.

[stevensm4]

The allure from the mystery of the other person no longer exists when you really get to know them.

[cathy37]

No it doesn't just happen to you.  The same thing happened to me only it wasn't me who lost interest it was him.  He never said anything about breaking up, just let things continue.  I was the one who finally broke things off because I couldn't take it anymore.

[Mizzkizz7]

Why is it when 2 people meet and fall in love and at the beginning you cant wait to see that person, BUT, as time goes on, maybe in a year or so, all the excitement kind of just fizzles? is it just ME?

Oh God no. I's not just you. I have been through that before. I'm still going through it now. You're not alone on this..

[mrisha]

Why is it when 2 people meet and fall in love and at the beginning you cant wait to see that person, BUT, as time goes on, maybe in a year or so, all the excitement kind of just fizzles? is it just ME?

I think it's because in the beginning, the relationship is new and you know nothing about each other.  It's about when you know everything about each other and the excitement is gone.  To keep the relationship fresh
do something unexpected and just a little wild.

[PGS28]

I think sometimes we get use to people and forget how bad we once wanted them and allow the magic to fizzle out.  Or they do something and we forgive them but not quite forget and it soils the rest of the relationship. 

Why is it when 2 people meet and fall in love and at the beginning you cant wait to see that person, BUT, as time goes on, maybe in a year or so, all the excitement kind of just fizzles? is it just ME?

[PGS28]

Unfortunately, sounds like other women had his interest, that happened to me.  People are always looking for something better and then try to come back when it wasn't what they expected or it doesn't work out, it's really quite offensive and I've started being super harsh when they come back bc we all have flaws- that isn't reason to throw someone away.  But, life goes on, just redirect your focus and practice self love.

No it doesn't just happen to you.  The same thing happened to me only it wasn't me who lost interest it was him.  He never said anything about breaking up, just let things continue.  I was the one who finally broke things off because I couldn't take it anymore.

[mrsmere]

You both have to work at the relationship and keep things exciting. Don't take each other for granted and do special things for each other and not just on special occasions.