The Honeymoon Phase

[Mizzkizz7]

I was wondering if anyone ever been in a relationship and in the beginning it's all fun, loving, exciting and the years later everything gets boring and stale. Do you feel like it's meant for one person to experience more than one person in their lifetime?

[dreamyxo]

Every relationship goes through that.  I don't believe it's natural to be with someone practically your whole life but it's possible because it's a choice.  People can choose to stay with one person or choose not to. People didn't live as long as they do now.  It's easier to be be with someone long term when you die at 40 but now people are living to 80 and beyond.  Imagine getting married at 15 and being with the same person when you're 83. 

[stevensm4]

I was wondering if anyone ever been in a relationship and in the beginning it's all fun, loving, exciting and the years later everything gets boring and stale. Do you feel like it's meant for one person to experience more than one person in their lifetime?

That last question though...I don't think people are meant to but I don't know if this question is being asked to find justification in order to seek out the passion that is lost in the relationship in another relationship as if it can only be found in a brand new relationship.

[Nancy5]

It depends on the person.  Both my husband and I had other relationships before we married.  We have been together over 30 years, I’m not about to tell you there were not bad times because there were.  We both have short fuses and bad tempers and have had many many fights, but no matter how bad it got (and at times it got bad) I never stopped loving him and I don’t think he stopped loving me.  When our kids were small we made a point of having (date night) once a week.  It didn’t matter if money was tight, my sister watched the kids and we might have gone for a drive and McDonalds but at least we were out together.  Kids are now gone and we are in a different financial category and still have date night!  I am hoping we both live a long time (hope my cancer stays at the stage it is now and not worse) and expect to be with him until we die.

[BATISTAGIRL663]

a relationship requires a lot of work from both people to keep it fresh and exciting ! yes we get comfortable with each other and slack off and forget that in order to keep things exciting we must maintain the funny and crazy things we did in the beginning of the relationship !

[jadehart]

The honeymoon phase can last a long...long...long time. 

[Mizzkizz7]

It depends on the person.  Both my husband and I had other relationships before we married.  We have been together over 30 years, I’m not about to tell you there were not bad times because there were.  We both have short fuses and bad tempers and have had many many fights, but no matter how bad it got (and at times it got bad) I never stopped loving him and I don’t think he stopped loving me.  When our kids were small we made a point of having (date night) once a week.  It didn’t matter if money was tight, my sister watched the kids and we might have gone for a drive and McDonalds but at least we were out together.  Kids are now gone and we are in a different financial category and still have date night!  I am hoping we both live a long time (hope my cancer stays at the stage it is now and not worse) and expect to be with him until we die.

Thanks for responding, Relationships do have their ups and downs indeed, but did you ever feel like he wasn't for you at one point? I hope your cancer goes away in Jesus's name! You will be fine.

[linderlizzie]

Get married. Stay married. One person is all you need. 

God should be first, your mate second and then you.   

If something is broken in your marriage, fix it instead of throwing it away. 

Sound simple. It is. Sound easy. No, it's not; but it's definitely worth it in the long run. 


                                     

[Yukichan77]

I hate when the honeymoon phase ends :\ I've experienced that before. But I think I've learned it's not necessarily a bad thing. It just means the relationship starts to mature and grow in other ways. I think there's way to keep a relationship feeling fresh, too.

[Nancy5]

It depends on the person.  Both my husband and I had other relationships before we married.  We have been together over 30 years, I’m not about to tell you there were not bad times because there were.  We both have short fuses and bad tempers and have had many many fights, but no matter how bad it got (and at times it got bad) I never stopped loving him and I don’t think he stopped loving me.  When our kids were small we made a point of having (date night) once a week.  It didn’t matter if money was tight, my sister watched the kids and we might have gone for a drive and McDonalds but at least we were out together.  Kids are now gone and we are in a different financial category and still have date night!  I am hoping we both live a long time (hope my cancer stays at the stage it is now and not worse) and expect to be with him until we die.

Thanks for responding, Relationships do have their ups and downs indeed, but did you ever feel like he wasn't for you at one point? I hope your cancer goes away in Jesus's name! You will be fine.

Oh sure, when we had rough times early I often thought I should have stayed single or married my last (the one I left for him), after all he was on his way to be an attorney and we wouldn’t have to struggle financially as we were doing.  But then I remembered why I married him, he was and is a good man, a hard worker, and we laughed a lot, but more importantly I really loved him.

[bremer51]

You're either committed, or you're not.

[Kimdud22]

I know what you mean but sometimes it can definitely still be rekindled just keep the honeymoon phase alive and do those things that once made you head over heels.