Grown children living at home.

[shawnix]

This is definitely not okay.  I'm sure his father loves him and just wants his son to be okay, but it seems his son is taking advantage of him. He's only working 17 hours a week ? Why not full time? What is he doing with the rest of his time? He shouldn't being paying ALL of his bills.  But as long your boyfriend is okay with it and isn't taking money from you to help him I would let it be. Hopefully very soon your boyfriend will realize that this isn't right. 

[heypeg]

I think at some point grown children need to take responsibility for themselves but there are areas that might impact that.

[debidoo]

I posted on this before but I can't help but elaborate because I am so frustrated with my youngest son.  My two sons and I had a house built because out old house just needed too much work.  We sat down, discussed and made an agreement we would all stay one full year or until the old house sold.  So guess who is moving out with his girlfriend and nine year old daughter (neither of whom I can stand) just two months into the mortgage.  I am really disappointed in him and yes a tad on the angry side.  That is ok what goes around comes around GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

[ktheodos]

IT depends on the situation...if there is a real need or a temporary thing, I think it's okay, but if it's just laziness, that's different...

[yisa]

I think it is okay to help your children but only if they are working on build themselves and just need some support at the time.

[fillfran82]

Show of hands, how many of you support your grown children?
I have two children: a 30 year old daughter and a 25 year old son. Both are on their own, supporting themselves without help from me. My boyfriend, on the other hand, has a 25 year old son with an Iphone 8 that lives in my boyfriends apartment AND my boyfriend pays all the bills, rent and his cell phone bill!!! His son only works 17 hours a week in retail and he got that job after he quit college after completing 3 years of a 4 year degree. He dropped out as he was tired of going to school. My boyfriend started staying in my apartment a year ago but refuses to give up his apartment. Am I crazy for seeing this as not ok? Or, am I wrong and many people still care for their grown children? Thoughts please....

Hello!

I'm in my thirties and I rent my mother's basement apartment. I have own that apartment since I was 27 years old. I consider that I've been living on my own since I was 27 (or maybe before). I say that because I pay for everything by myself she doesn't help me. Furthermore I'm paying 700 monthly for my apartment just like a regular person. So No I don't live with my mother.

Fillfran82

[ancmetro]

    Help them, if they need help.
    Dropping out of school is not the end of the world.
    But teach them 'financial responsibility'.
    Many drop outs work for a living...even start their own businesses.
    It is not the end of the world!

[bshee58]

I have one daughter living at home, but she has her own income.

[kimber62372]

I can understand helping out your kid while they are attending college, but after that they are on their own. The son needs to get a better job or 2 jobs to pay his own way. His dad sounds like a very nice guy that is maybe a push over and probably has some kind of guilt and that is why he is still paying for his son. Who knows why, it could be more deeper issues to the situation.

[dogsleash]

ill support my kids with a home when ever they need it but they have to work . also it helps i have an appartment down stairs.

[dwiley11]

You are wrong for giving crap.  His stress is tons more by you putting your 2cents in.  Let him deal with his kid.

[jwkelly]

I  know several 20-50 year olds living with mommy and daddy for no other reason then to use them and it's pathetic