Best Marriage Advice

[JaniceSW]

Having been married twice for a total of 20 years, I learned a few things.  I won't write about all of it here, but I would definitely tell anyone planning to get married to cultivate self-awareness, kindness, forgiveness, and showing little behaviors that say "I love you" rather than just the words.  The other concrete advice would be at least a monthly meeting between the two of you where you discuss any issues which seem to be creating a problem within the relationship. Be prepared with how something makes you feel rather than blame and possible solutions rather than just arguing your point.

What would you tell someone who hopes to have a successful relationship?

[makeblessed]

Communication is very important, issues cannot be addressed if one party is unable or unwilling to communicate, minor problems can become major issues sometimes because of the lack of communicating and looking  for solutions when they happen.

[BlackSheepNY]

Having been married twice for a total of 20 years, I learned a few things.  I won't write about all of it here, but I would definitely tell anyone planning to get married to cultivate self-awareness, kindness, forgiveness, and showing little behaviors that say "I love you" rather than just the words.  The other concrete advice would be at least a monthly meeting between the two of you where you discuss any issues which seem to be creating a problem within the relationship. Be prepared with how something makes you feel rather than blame and possible solutions rather than just arguing your point.

What would you tell someone who hopes to have a successful relationship?

I would just tell them to always, and I mean ALWAYS, be honest and tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth so help you God - no matter how much it might hurt.  Don't hold back because when you're not completely honest, it will come back to you with a vengeance.  We're only human and we do hold grudges, whether we like to admit that or not.  To me the worst thing in the world is to be face-to-face with your partner, whom we should have the utmost trust in to tell us the truth from the start, and then find out later you've been told a half truth or a total lie because they "didn't want to upset you."  Trust blows right out the window and suspicion sets in for any further discussions on any number of topics because you'll never know WHAT to believe.