have you ever lived with your inlawas

[aggie49]

my mother in law is going to move in with us i love her like she was my mom but i just hope having her live with us doesn't change that i live with my 2 mother in law years ago and it was a disaster so i am kind of worry any one got any advice

[debidoo]

I think it is different to a point whether they live with you in your home or you live with them in their home.  We lived with my in-laws when we were newly married and having a house built and it was a disaster.  But I think if the turf is yours rather than theirs it might be different.  i don't know but I do wish you both the best of luck with it.

[debidoo]

P.S.  My real advice would be the same as for marital or any other relationship.  Don't let misunderstandings or upsetments fester - keep communication open. You seem like a giving person who always seeks resolution to things so I am betting you guys are going to be just fine.

[bretay]

we lived with my inlaws for about 2 weeks after we got married.that was almost 38 yrs ago

[Nancy5]

We lived with my in-laws for about 6 months when we had our first home built.  We probably had a very easy time.  They had a split and we had the downstairs to ourselves, a bedroom, bathroom, and livingroom.  We had to go up for the kitchen.  We put a small refrigator in the livingroon for sodas, snacks, etc.  it really worked out well.  We all worked and all pitched making suppers and i cleaned our 'apartment' did our laundry and we paid rent (even though they did't want us to).  It worked out great and I really learned to love them both as if they were my parents.

[aggie49]

thanks everyone i don't think it will be a problem we get along good just nervouse i guess and she is like my own mom so keeping my fingers crossed nancy hope all is going good with your health let me how you are doing they are trying to figure out what is next for me so i will keep you in my prayers god bless

[Nancy5]

Thanks aggie.  Had another round of chemo.  I know you kniw how that is, my hair is starting to fall out today, i hate that!  The chemo is making me very tired, all I want to do is sleep.  Thank you so much for your prayers and concern.  I pray things will work out for you with your mother in law.  You are a really great person and I would love to really get to know you!

[sherryinutah]

Open, honest communication with her.  Find a way to make it a win/win.  What's in it for her?  What's in it for you?  Keep in mind that if you give too much and sacrifice too much--you will naturally feel resentful.  Let her know that the situation should be good for everyone concerned or changes might have to take place.

Are you territorial?  I am, which means I would have to designate a place in my home where I can be alone whenever I need time alone.

 

[ancmetro]

     I live SOLO! Life is very short for family hassles.

[loulizlee]

I lived with my in-laws for almost two years when my husband was in the military.  They were condescending to me.  In front of other people, my mother-in-law acted like I was a daughter; when I was alone with her, she degraded me constantly.  I was too young and not used to dealing with people to fight back.  I never told my husband until much later.  Now, after all these years, I still have what I call "anger dreams"  where I scream my anger at them.  And I'm not a screamer.  I should have resolved it before they passed away.

[bigfoot951]

One of the many things in this world that I just don't have to worry about.  I'm not married...so therefore no inlaws.  I am trying to enjoy it while it lasts!!!