Spouse with no friends

[skrogman]

I did.  I suffered that problem on a horrible scale with my ex-husband.  It caused the end of a very dear friendship to me.  I had a friend who was hired for a little extra pocket money to clean the church for which I was the church secretary and we developed a very deep friendship from that point.  She had a son and was raising her sister's two daughters and was always hurting for money and looking for extra things to do for cash, so I "hired" her to clean my house a couple of days a week, since I was working two jobs and could afford it.  She also babysat my daughter for me.  But then came the time when my ex-husband as assistant manager for one unit of a chain convenience store embezzled the money from the store and did not make the night deposit.  He hid the envelope of cash at her home and promised her a cut.  She did it for him for the cut of the money.  Long story short (TOO LATE)...the end of both relationships.  I am not tangled in stuff like that.  Gone.  Done. 

Well, that's my little 2 cents worth.  Good question.

[LenoraMinogue]

I'd recommend the direct approach with him. Let him know that you would like some time hanging out with your friends alone, but also make the effort to set up some time with him.

[colbtrist]

Is it possible to find a church group, or bowling group where you can do something together without him having to tag along with you and your gal pals? I think time apart is good sometimes. It help make things fresh when you come back in.

[mariebiller24]

my husband got friends but i dont i dont really care for it i aint a talking person

[ernica96]

if he can't find friends- maybe he can acquaintances with similar interest. They don't have to meet all the time so he would be less likely to find something wrong with them. 

[camellia0]

That's weird. Does your spouse find fault with your friends? The spouse needs to realize that no one is perfect and people probably find fault with him as well.

[Timberlan127]

It sounds like he has a lot of insecurities when it comes to his relationships. As long as you enjoy each others company and he let's you do things on your own now and then it's ok. Everyone needs alone time now and then.

[lucky382001]

It sounds like he has one best friend that he trusts .. you!  Just talk to him about it.

[workin4alivin]

Keep us posted on how you resolve this.  It's a good topic and I would like to know more.  Just in case I run across this type of situation.

Thanks for posting!!

[ghunter]

Don't know how long you have been married, but if you have been married a long time, your friends should be his friends.  I know you have some girl friends you would like to hang out with and he does not have any male friends.  I am so sorry, that is rough but just hang out together.

[ancmetro]

     Your spouse is a loner. He just wants to be you. There is nothing wrong with that!

[nmbrown863]

Well, honestly, neither me nor my husband have many friends besides our family members. But we prefer it that way. We enjoy each other's company, and the company of our families as well. So it never really is an issue for us.

My husband and I are the same. Neither of us really have any friends. Maybe one or two that we see like once or twice a year..if that. We just spend time with each other. Luckily we never seem to get tired of each other.

[sgluckadoo]

     Your spouse is a loner. He just wants to be you. There is nothing wrong with that!

Well the thing is he says he wants friends, but finds fault with them and feels sad that I have friends to do things with, so I think it is more than being a loner.

[Getinonthis]

Help him find things he interested in like, sports etc. support him by providing anything he might need while making room for some other friend aside from yourself.