I am so frustrated!!!

[jiuchan]

My sister's family are visiting for three weeks and I've been stressed out ever since they came. They take both cars without considering the ones who live in the house. My mom is always picking up after their mess. Really?!

I mean I know they haven't been here for a long time, but it doesn't mean they should be taking advantage of us that way. When they first arrived, she went to her friend's bachelorette party and she wanted my bf to pick her up and take her to the airport. So I talked to the bf so he could and he said he would only during the day. Then she doesn't call him at all. He got worried because he's supposed to be taking her to the airport, but no follow up. No calls or text either. I used my mom's phone to call and text her too, but nothing. She doesn't pick up or reply. I was so frustrated.

I understand she's having fun, but it doesn't give her any right to take advantage of the situation either.

I have my own errands and I can't do them because I'm car less. Not to mention I'm phoneless because sister has my phone.

There! I feel better now. Thanks! I just can't wait til this stress is over.

[aflyingmonkey]

Then stop.
You are enabling the bad behavior, if you don't like it, then stop it & set ground rules up front.  If no one says anything to her then she'll continue with her behavior because for her she doesn't know any other way.

Don't involve your bf either, he's busy with his own life. 

[jiuchan]

I am trying to stop her. But she only thinks of herself.

I didn't mean to involve my bf either. I didn't know she changed her mind and decide to stay and party some more.

I fight back as much as I can, but in all honesty, I'm getting fed up with the fighting. It's all that happens whenever she's around. It never stops. This is why I'm not fighting back as much as I use to. I'm getting tired of the sibling rivalry and the feud between us. It's tiring.

So I'm just gonna let this pass by. there's only two more weeks left.

[bob1tina]

My sister's family are visiting for three weeks and I've been stressed out ever since they came. They take both cars without considering the ones who live in the house. My mom is always picking up after their mess. Really?!

I mean I know they haven't been here for a long time, but it doesn't mean they should be taking advantage of us that way. When they first arrived, she went to her friend's bachelorette party and she wanted my bf to pick her up and take her to the airport. So I talked to the bf so he could and he said he would only during the day. Then she doesn't call him at all. He got worried because he's supposed to be taking her to the airport, but no follow up. No calls or text either. I used my mom's phone to call and text her too, but nothing. She doesn't pick up or reply. I was so frustrated.

I understand she's having fun, but it doesn't give her any right to take advantage of the situation either.

I have my own errands and I can't do them because I'm car less. Not to mention I'm phoneless because sister has my phone.

There! I feel better now. Thanks! I just can't wait til this stress is over.

I don't think you are wrong for being frustrated.  No matter what you are doing having a vacation you shouldn't take for granted what people especially family are doing for you so you could have a good time.  Common Curiosity that is what I say, it is really lacking these days along with manners.  So if you need to vent you vent I know I would,

[sdenimandlace1]

For some people it it is a me, me thing no one else matters.  Your mom could put her foot down.

[bremer51]

Your sister is rude and selfish.  She should rent a car and stay at a hotel with her ill-mannered behavior.  Never treat family in such a disrespectful way. 

[LaTashaS28]

Your sister is wrong for doing that, and disrespectful too. You need to set some rules and tell her that you don't appreciate her behavior

[aflyingmonkey]

I am trying to stop her. But she only thinks of herself.

I didn't mean to involve my bf either. I didn't know she changed her mind and decide to stay and party some more.

I fight back as much as I can, but in all honesty, I'm getting fed up with the fighting. It's all that happens whenever she's around. It never stops. This is why I'm not fighting back as much as I use to. I'm getting tired of the sibling rivalry and the feud between us. It's tiring.

So I'm just gonna let this pass by. there's only two more weeks left.

I hear ya

Some people will never change, & they are probably the people who get everything handed to them despite their poor behavior.   

I would try to stay out of the house as much as possible, & avoid the entire situation.  Fighting is such a drain, especially since they don't change.

Stay strong 

[minioncookies]

Well after what i just read i would be frustrated to.. The first thing you need to do is call a family meeting. In this meeting you need to discuss ground rules, How you feel, How it's making you feel, Communication issues and other keypoints that you need to get across while they are there. You need to tell them your house is not a flop house.. Your house deserves respect as much as the next house. It is extremly Important that you call this meeting so that they know you will have zero tolerence of the behavior that's been going on. If you can't call this meeting i would suggest You hide all the keys and the phones to get your point across.. If they can't follow the rules after this..Or think it's still ok for this kind of behavior i would tell them they need to find somewhere else to stay.. I'm sorry that it sounds so harsh but People need to learn they can't just do what they want when they want..I really hope your day weeks and lives become less stressfull.. Stress is never a good thing!

[teenangel]

Having family over cam really be frustrating. My advice to you is don't let it frustrate you. Families are hard to get along with so in this situation I usually make up an excuse to get rid of them.