Lying girlfriend.. (I'm gay)

[jordandog]

sounds like a soap opera to me

Agreed and a bad one at that. It sounds to me as if neither one of you is actually gay. Lots of [immature] girls at your age play around and call themselves 'gay'. Either you are or you are not, there is NO in-between gray area here. You said you have a child, so YOU obviously slept with a male and now your girlfriend wants to do the same. Let her go or beg her to stay and put up with it because the whole situation sounds like BS to me!

[diala84]

I'm not sure how long you have been dating but you might want to make it really clear you want a monogamous relationship and to get her side of the story. If she doesn't respect your feelings and keeps at this then you are better off without her. Who knows maybe just telling her how you feel will resolve the issue. At least it is worth a try because it is much better to find out sooner while you still have options and self respect.  Good luck.

[duroz]

sounds like a soap opera to me

Agreed and a bad one at that. It sounds to me as if neither one of you is actually gay. Lots of [immature] girls at your age play around and call themselves 'gay'. Either you are or you are not, there is NO in-between gray area here. You said you have a child, so YOU obviously slept with a male and now your girlfriend wants to do the same. Let her go or beg her to stay and put up with it because the whole situation sounds like BS to me!

Yep, have to agree.... situation.

[ladycasshmere]

you need to really find out where you stand. Let her know how this makes you feel. If she thinks its cool she will just walk all over you. But if you express your true emotions she will either have to respect you or she doesnt deserve you.think about your child right now your baby is still young but as children gets older they understand things. You need someone in your childs life who is a good role model seriously she needs to figure out what she wants and stop being selfish 

[Snoozey]

It's not easy, but she seems to be a terrible gf. The fact that she actually told you that you looked bad and asked you to hang out with that guy, it's just a messed up situation. You'd be better off alone.

[melinder]

Just go with your gut and explain to her how you feel about everything.

[shereenjay]

sounds like a soap opera to me

I shouldn't be laughing but I agree!  My opinion is move on, worry about your son and yourself.  You don't need somene making you feel this way.  Try and remember babies can feel distress.  My boy is 4 and still knows when I'm sad or upset.

[d1cheetah]

time to move on...if she's not by your side, then she's using you.

[tantricia44]

If she started dating someone else and I'd just be on the sidelines just watching her be with someone else. I told her she could come back to me anytime..

OmgZomb13~ you don't seem to understand, from what you've written about you're relationship w/her, YOU ARE ALREADY ON THE SIDELINES OUTSIDE LOOKING IN!

By saying you'll wait for her to come back, tells me that you've givin her all the power & that you're not a couple anymore. Love is respect,mutual feelings for each other where both are connected equally. I don't see her respecting you when she accidently dated some1 else. If she had any respect for you, she should have ended the relationship in the first place. There is no such thing as people accidently cheating on their mate. Your cheating sort of kind of girlfriend doesn't want you anymore why she lied to you about the her boyfriend. I can't tell you what to do but if it was me, she would be out of my life forever! I'd pick up my pride &  self respect take my kid out of her life. If nothing else think about your kid, he's a clean slate. Do you want to soil his life forever by being in that kind of relationship? This is not just about you anymore, whatever happens he's going to be in the middle of all your drama living w/this *bleep*! Picture the future, will your child be a successful productive citizen as a grown up or will you be visiting him in prison; on death row for murdering his spouse? This time right now, you are in a turning point in which you need to choose your path! FC members have givin you advice, so get off the sidelines & make that choice!

[PMZ908]

He's coming over this weekend to play xbox

OMG!!!!!!! i would kick his a$$........

[lrb3211]

As soon as she cheated on you (dating other people, whether sexual or not, is cheating) it should have made it clear to you that she's not loyal. Period. And that in part is the key to a healthy longstanding relationsihp. If she's not loyal to you and can't honor what you've been through together then anything she says to you to make amends is all lies. Yes, the idea of leaving her is probably a very uncomfortable and terrifying thought, considering the roots of your relationship, but ANY kind of break up is difficult and uncomfortable. If you stay with her, then in time the reasons you thought of to justify staying with her eventually will just make you sad. All that put aside, no matter what you do your priority should be your son. I speak from experience with my parents when I say that you would rather raise your child as a single mother than to have her example polluting your household. For your son's sake, no matter how hard it seems, you need to find a way to become dependent on yourself rather than on her and move on.