pfrancis001* I've lost my husband almost 3 yrs now & I've been so lonely but I've chose not to get involve w/anyone b/c nobody ever measures up to my husband. I think that if you need to find someone, don't try so hard. I think that it's right to tell a potential friend a/o your grand kids because it's basically, a signal telling you if the person will be right for you or not. Right now, just enjoy your family & close friends don't force love b/c you're lonely. Usually, we don't know what we really want & pick the wrong potential mate. Stop looking, use this time w/your families,find hobbies to do, join a club....usually, when we aren't look we tend to trip over the "one" meant to be our soul mate! It happened to me, I kept on finding jerks as dates & one day when I gave up on all jerk males, I literally tripped over my best friends & soul mate. Good Luck!!!!!