How does one know they are a good husband?

[blondie71]

One time I asked a simular question and I was told if you are concered about being a good husband than you most likely are becuasue you are aware of your situation and just talk to your wife see if or how she feels about you as a husband.

[mtwano]

To ask this question shows that there's something in you that you wish you can do or can't do?

I work 3 jobs to help my husband maintain a house and raise 4 kids...

he broke down one day and told me that he feels like he's not a good husband, because he can't provide, and that's why I work so hard.

I do work hard and sometimes I feel like he's not doing enough, but he's still a good husband (even more). He's great with the kids: he gets them ready for school, picks them up, helps with homework, and plays with them. He still makes time to take me out for a movie or dinner, and attend church.

Talk first with your wife and openly ask, "Why do you love me?" And listen. There's a reason why you both married and sometimes it's so nice to recollect. Also, talk about goals, and set aside some "time" for each other. If you have kids, then this is even more important to do. At least once a week for a few hours... to watch a movie, have lunch, a drink, walk... things you both like to do or alternate.

I ask hubby all the time, "Why do you love me?" And he often tells me what he "loves" about me (hint! hint!) ha, ha, ha... and then he gets a little more personal.

If she gets upset for asking a "silly" question, then write her a letter and tell her Why You love her... an old fashion letter writing can work better than talking if the person likes to read. It gives them time to think and understand how you're feeling...

This is a good start...

[blondie71]

Every Person is different when it comes to marriage. So My advice on this matter is that weather your a husband or a wife the goal is to communicate with each other, if you make your partner happy than you are doing your part, the other partner is supose to communicate and make you happy.  I think a sucessful marriage is consideration for one another feelings and to work together to make a happy family life.

[gaylasue]

If everyone is happier to see you come home rather than when you leave.

[diala84]

Money problems can take an otherwise good couple and cause a lot of tension in the relationship. A lot of divorces are from money problems that could have been avoided if they had a little more money on hand. I think that kind and caring gestures go a long way even if you don't have a lot of money to throw around. Massages, picnic, breakfast in bed, leave a nice note in a place she can find, agree to take care of the kids for a night so she can recoup,  all of these little gestures don't cost money but can add more intimacy to the relationship. I agree that communication is also a key factor. Take time to  notice and compliment the things she does to help you and your family and find out out what little things will really improve her day (ex. do the dishes before she wakes up or do a task you have been putting off). Otherwise you sound like you are a good husband you just need to find that connection again. Good Luck =)