put baby up for adoption?

[audreyprsns10]

This is a more serious topic, but have any of you put your baby up for adoption?  And if so, have you ever tried to find it later?  What have you suffered because of it?  Please share your story.

[audreyprsns10]

When I was a teen and unmarried, I put my baby boy up for adoption, and it was almost Christmas.   After that, each year around Christmas time, my mother would remind me and make a comment and get me depressed all over again.  I gave him up because I had so many emotional problems back then that I could not deal with.  Plus, I had never been on my own, and I was afraid.

[home_teachin]

I seriously considered it, even went as far as to meet prospective adoptive parents. I didn't do it, I was young and everyone in my family was threatening to disown me if I did.
I still think about it though, since I feel like I made a selfish decision in keeping him. I couldn't imagine life without him now, of course, 13 years later.
The adoptive parents had money, and we have always struggled. My point is no matter your decision you will second guess yourself. You just have to deal with it and hope for the best.

[shakeila22]

i would never up adoption if i made it i would keep it cause no matter wat u go through in life god is always there to help u through it

[audreyprsns10]

"I seriously considered it, even went as far as to meet prospective adoptive parents. I didn't do it, I was young and everyone in my family was threatening to disown me if I did."

That makes a decision very difficult when your family strongly influences your decision in that way.  My family, including my mother, allowed me to make my own decision with no repercussions. 

But I was so immature for my age and had been severely abused, myself, and I never had a good example of what a mother should be.  I needed so much healing that I was afraid I would have been a very unfit mother.  Of course, that would be different now, as I have had so much healing from my past.

[audreyprsns10]

i would never up adoption if i made it i would keep it cause no matter wat u go through in life god is always there to help u through it

[audreyprsns10]

OOPS !!!  I was trying to do a quote in the above posting.  Hehehehe .......

Anyway, what I was going to say is that I was not a Christian back then, as I am now, and that is why I did not know to trust God to help me through it.

[mtwano]

Raising a baby is hard. I have four of my own. And there are times when I feel like I'm not a good mother. It's hard to be a mom, a wife, a daughter, a friend, and so much more to people around you... they say motherhood comes naturally, but even now, I'm still learning, still get frustrated, and still cry... but I love my little ones... I think of them everyday... and I do my best... if anyone has ever put their child up for adoption, it's because they thought of them ~ hoping that they've made the right decision, and hoping that their child will later understand.

[audreyprsns10]

Amen to that !!!  After the way my life has turned out since then, I am convinced now and know that I did make the right decision to put him up for adoption.  To do that is not a cruel thing, but many times, it is an act of love and mercy.