Optional Fatherhood

[articx]

A woman can avoid motherhood by choosing to have an abortion. Do you think men should have something too that lets them avoid fatherhood?

[Shahrukhlover]

No! They're not the ones who have to carry the child for 9 months or give birth.  They can choose to leave the mother if they don't want a child.  Although, they would be a real jerk if they chose that. 
Of course, this would be more complicated between a married couple. But why even get married if you don't think you would want to have children? It's kind of expected.

[ktheodos]

I mean, not having sex or using protection is the best way to avoid both....

[lynnc35]

It is called a vasectomy.

[hawkeye3210]

Sadly, it is already optional in some cases.  Too many single moms with the father nowhere to be found.

[anubabs]

the best option is to not have sex n if you insist on having sex please use protection and dot tellanybody "she said she was on the pills".

[home_teachin]

It is called a vasectomy.

Yeah, or condoms. It sucks that the only choices in Birth Control for men are those two, but that's how it is. You have the choice whether to get her pregnant, but not what she does after that.

[articx]

Just some more questions.

No! They're not the ones who have to carry the child for 9 months or give birth.

What about adopting?

They can choose to leave the mother if they don't want a child.  Although, they would be a real jerk if they chose that.

Is a woman a jerk for forcing fatherhood onto a man who doesn't want a child?

It is called a vasectomy.

What if a man doesn't want a child now, but would like to have children later in life?

Sadly, it is already optional in some cases.  Too many single moms with the father nowhere to be found.

How many of those single moms had a part in causing that?

the best option is to not have sex n if you insist on having sex please use protection and dot tellanybody "she said she was on the pills".

Would a woman still get pregnant while taking those pills continuously?

[sommap]

And then there are women who delibrately get pregnant when they know their spouse or the man in their lives do not want children.  Unfortunately some men rely on the fact that the woman is supposed to be on birth control pills.

[dreamyxo]

Yeah condoms or don't have sex.  It just amazes me when people say I don't want a kid but yet you know exactly what it takes to make one but you aren't doing anything to prevent it. 

[angeladais14]

I don't think so because the man helps make the baby too, so why should he get out of taking responsibility for it. If a man wants to get out of fatherhood USE PROTECTION. AND USE IT RIGHT

[articx]

I don't think so because the man helps make the baby too, so why should he get out of taking responsibility for it. If a man wants to get out of fatherhood USE PROTECTION. AND USE IT RIGHT

Because the woman can get out of taking responsibility if she wanted to.

[footemama]

Sadly, it is already optional in some cases.  Too many single moms with the father nowhere to be found.
[/quote]How many of those single moms had a part in causing that?

Really?!??!?!

I'm sure that there are women out there who decided they wanted a baby and decided that whomever they were with at the time could provide sperm as well as anyone else. Some of those women then go after the father for support when they end up farther up the creek than they had thought. I think most situations of children outside of a long-term stable relationship is the result of poor decision-making on the part of both parties. Inside of a long-term stable relationship single parenthood without the other parent present is usually due to one parent deciding for whatever reason that they weren't ready or that parenthood wasn't what they thought then leaving the other parent to take care of everything. It happens most often with men but women will occasionally do it as well.

The fact that one person leaves is NOT the fault of the other person! Nobody can control the actions of somebody else. If a parent or other family member WANTS to be in a child's life then they will be there. If they don't then they aren't and it's a simple as that. I can't forced my son's father to spend time with him.....I tried to call and nag but eventually got tired of making the effort. If he wants to see him he will in the meantime I have to comfort a child who thinks that his father hates him (no matter how many times I or his father say that he loves him my son always goes back to saying that "Daddy hates me" if he hasn't seen him in a few weeks) when he is here he is only present and watching TV rather than spending time with my son. Sad to say I honestly feel that it would be better in the long run for my son if his father walked out and never looked back.

Sorry for the vent. Struck a nerve there. It's not fair to blame the remaining parent for the absenteeism of another.....they have a choice on whether to stay or to go.